Wedding Planning Tips: Tip #10 – Remember Why You’re Having a Wedding
We finally come to the end of my Top 10 Tips list. Although this is the last tip, it by no means is the least important). In fact, I believe that it is probably the most important one of all!
10. Remember why you’re having a wedding!
The reason for planning a wedding is not for the sake of having a big party. It’s not just because of one day, (although this day is immensely important. Instead the reason you’re having a wedding is for all the days that will follow. For all the days that you will be blessed to get to spend with the love of your life.
Go out regular dates with your fiancé. Go out for dinner, go see the latest movie – but do not talk about the wedding. It’s all too easy to become consumed with wedding stuff. By having dates and non-wedding time will give you and your fiancé time to be yourselves (you know, the ones who are more than just “bride” and “groom.” This will also help ensure that once your wedding day comes (and goes), you’ll know how to enjoy each others company without all that wedding talk.
It’s a nice day for a (non) white wedding (cake) . . .
. . . to semi-quote Billy Idol. Does a wedding cake have to be a delicate confection of white?
Recently, from “Darcy’s Idea of the Day,” Darcy Miller (of Martha Stewart Omnimedia) showed us an adorable cake decorated to mimic the pattern of an ikat weave. So…. This got me thinking about all the wonderful wedding cakes I’ve seen through the years that weren’t your usual ‘white wedding’ cake. Here are a few of my favorites.
Simple, yet whimsical, this adorable cake beautifully coordinates with the couple’s Tiffany blue decor.
Both the bride and groom worked for the State Park System. The canoe and lily pads on the bottom tier were inspired by a similar design on their invitations, and on top sits a little bride bear and groom bear.
The bride loved this green “grass” covered cake which she saw in a magazine. Gerber daisies were added to coordinate with her centerpieces.
No delicate confection in white for these cakes – yet each were perfectly suited for their respective wedding receptions. A traditional white cake would have looked out of place.
Have fun with your wedding cake design. Perhaps you’re wanting somethng more traditional – and there’s nothing wrong with that. But if you’d like something different, why not go for it?
But if you don’t have a wedding planner/coordinator make sure you choose someone other than yourself, your groom, your mom, his mom, or a member of your bridal party. Make sure that this person will be available at the rehearsal, ceremony and reception.
This person, who can be a friend or relative, will need to know all of the details of your wedding day, including where everything will go, and when everything will occur (without having to ask you on your wedding day!)
They will take on several responsibilities such as:
making sure all of your vendors have arrived and are set up correctly
all corsages and boutonnieres are pinned on
getting everyone down the aisle at the right moment
ensuring that all of your vendors are on the same schedule
the champagne is poured at the proper time
knowing if the dollar dance or the bouquet toss comes next
directing guests to their tables if you’ve got assigned seating
Among other things, this person will be a combination go-fer, hostess, delivery person and trouble shooter, and will take care of all the little (and big) behind-the-scenes details so you and your groom will be able to enjoy your wedding day and not have to worry about anything.