Wrong and Wrong: My Take On The “Wedding Officiant Yells At Photographer” Fiasco

I’m sure you’ve all seen, or at least heard about, the youtube video of the officiant who yelled at the photographer and threatened to stop the ceremony if the photographer didn’t move.

(Here’s a link for those of you who may have missed it – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oReLN5nntKw)

Consensus seems to be “shame on you” to the officiant. After all, the bride and groom are paying the photographer to get great shots of their ceremony, right?

Well, I’m going to suggest a differing viewpoint of who was “in the wrong” in this situation.

Now I’m not condoning how the officiant handled the situation that was caught on tape. There are much better ways to get the point across than yelling and making threats during the wedding ceremony. Just take a look at the expressions on the bride and groom’s faces. It certainly looks to me like they’re wondering if the officiant is going to stop their ceremony.

But . . .

Take a close look at where the officiant was looking when he was addressing the photographer. It seems very clear that he is looking right behind him. The problem? Well, think of this from the guests’ vantage point.

They are looking at the bride and groom, with the officiant right behind them. OK, pretty normal so far. Then . . . right behind the officiant they see the photographer doing his thing. The photographer doesn’t belong there! The photographer should be inconspicuous, NOT part of the action.

The photographer should not have been standing there in the first place!

I have no idea what conversation, if any, took place between the photographer, the officiant, and the couple about the rules regarding where the photographer could and could not stand. But . . . even if no such conversation took place, the photographer should have known better!

So the photographer wants to get a shot from that angle? Why not? It would be a great photo of the couple. However, he can stand further back, OUT OF THE WAY. Some may think, well if he’s too far back, he can’t get the shot. Well, that’s what they make long-focus lenses for!

It doesn’t matter that the ceremony was held outdoors instead of in a church. During a wedding ceremony there are places where it is ok to stand, and there are places where it is not. Standing behind the officiant is one of the places that definitely fall into the latter category.

What do you think?

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Meet the Pros – Interview with Karen Ankrom / Tiers of Sugar

Tell us a little bit about your business and how you got your start?
Cake decorating has been one of my hobbies for as long as I can remember, so when GM Moraine Assembly closed their doors and I found myself jobless it was an easy decision to start making wedding cakes. I took two years to go back to school and get an Associate’s Degree in Business at Sinclair Community College. All this while continuing to further my cake decorating and gumpaste skills by taking classes at Cake Craft, Inc. in Beavercreek.

What was your first childhood memory involving baking?
My Mom always made our birthday cakes growing up and I was more than fascinated with buttercream. From the point that I was tall enough to stand on my tip toes and reach the counter I was asking for a bag of buttercream and tips of my own to play with. I now know how fun those tips are to wash, I’m sure she was thrilled when I would use every one just to see what each one would do.

What is your top 3 best selling flavors/products?
This year my top selling flavors have been white cake with raspberry filling, my newest flavor, vanilla bean with blueberry filling, and of course the ever popular wedding flavor, red velvet with cream cheese filling. I have two buttercreams Ivory and Almond. I make them both available for tasting and intended to weed one out based on which one customers seemed to favor, but it’s been a 50/50 split so I’ll keep offering both. My personal favorite is Ivory Buttercream, rich creamy tradition buttercream deliciousness. Gumpaste Hydrangeas, Roses, and Peonies have been to most requested flowers this year.

What is your favorite flavor?
My favorite flavor would have to be Lemon Chiffon with Lemon Curd filling and Ivory Buttercream, seriously can’t get enough of it!

What’s the most memorable cake you’ve done?
The most memorable cake would have to be the first wedding I did, a three tier red velvet cake with trailing gumpaste flowers and hand made fondant toppers, Mr. & Mrs. Owl. It was the first time we put a three tier cake on the floor of our vehicle and drove for 45 minutes. They were the longest 45 minutes of mine and my husband’s life, I broke out in hives. It made it safely though and the bride and groom loved it, at the end of the day that’s all that’s important.

What words best describe you?
Creative, dreamer. You have to have a little of both to do what I do.

What words best describe your company?
Dedicated, reliable, intimate . I value the personal relationships I develop with my brides and grooms and their families. Working with them to create the cake of their dreams is my dream job so it becomes the cake of my dreams for that week.

When you are not working on a wedding, what do you like to do for fun?
Learning photography; throughout my life I have had many hobbies but there are two that have always been at the forefront, cake decorating and photography. I’ve recently joined the Focus Photo Club and I hope to learn as much as I can about photography, maybe one day I’ll add that to my list of options for clients. Right now I’m just learning how to shoot in full manual and my main subject is nature. When I’m not wondering through the woods to find the latest waterfall to photograph I’m hanging out at home with my husband watching movies or my favorite show Friends.

What trends do you see for 2013-2014?
Simple and elegant, I’ve done a lot of scroll and dot patterns this year and I think I’ll continue to see that be a favorite. It’s simple yet adds an elegance to the cake without breaking the bank. As for colors, the bold purples, greens, and blues, the peacock colors. Most definitely a fad, but I think they will hang for a little while yet.

Anything else you’d like to add?
While I can pick a most memorable cake, I could never pick a favorite. If you ask me each week the cake I’m currently working on will be my favorite, I love them all equally. I look forward to each new challenge, and hope that I master each to the utmost satisfaction of my clients.

Be sure to visit Karen and Tiers of Sugar at http://www.tiersofsugar.com/

National Punch Day

punch bowl at wedding reception

Today is National Punch Day. In honor of this occasion, I’d like to share one of my favorite punch recipes called “Tastes Like Champagne.”

Inexpensive. Easy to make. Looks festive. And it really does taste sooooo yummy.

Tastes Like Champagne
1 – bottle (64 oz.) White Grape Juice
1 – bottle (32 oz.) Club Soda
1 – bottle (64 oz.) 7-Up

Mix chilled ingredients in large punch bowl, and enjoy!

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What to Think About When Planning Your Outdoor Wedding

tent wedding reception

I love planning outdoor weddings and receptions.

There’s nothing like celebrating amid nature – the flowers, green grass, lovely ponds . . . The scenery and landscape of outdoor sites can’t be beat!

However, planning an outdoor wedding has its own unique needs that have to be taken care of and addressed before the big day. You’re thinking about your linens and centerpieces and music – all of the exciting elements for your wedding day. But there are other things that you will have to think about – and unfortunately some of them aren’t fun, and certainly aren’t glamorous or pretty. But they are oh, so necessary.

You want your wedding day to go as smoothly as possible, so don’t forget to plan for:

Will it be rainy or humid? Will your guests be sitting in shade or under the hot sun?

You may need to bring in a tent, with AC or heat if necessary.

To beat the heat, have hand held fans, or parasols or umbrellas on hand for guests to use. For outdoor ceremonies, have water or other cool (non-alcoholic) drinks available.

Electrical Needs
Will there be adequate electricity for the dj, and the lighting, and the caterers? Find out from each how much amperage and wattage they will need, and also find out what is available on site. You may need to bring in a generator.

Water Needs
Is there water access for the caterers and for restrooms? Determine how many faucets will be needed, and check to see how many water faucets are available on site.

Are there any restrooms onsite or will you need to bring in some rental units? If you will be bringing in restroom units, what types of electrical and water hook-ups do they require?

Does the site provide trash cans? If not, you will need to add these to your rentals list. Also, at the end of the evening, where does the trash go? Is there a dumpster on site, or will all trash have to be taken?

And if you’re having an at-home wedding you’re going to have way more trash than in a typical week, so you’ll need to find out if your trash collection company pick up everything.

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9 Easy Ways to Contain Your Wedding Costs

Weddings will still take place in these tough economic times, so savvy brides and grooms are looking for ways now more than ever to have the weddings of their dreams without breaking the bank with their wedding costs.

Here are some easy-to-do tips that will help you contain the costs of your wedding.

1) Prioritize
After you and your fiancé have decided on what your “ideal” wedding day will be, prioritize all of the different elements that generally go into a wedding. What is more important and what is the least important (or maybe not important at all)? This will help you when determining your budget and know where to allocate the money you want to spend.

2) Budget
You need to know how much money you really have to spend on your wedding. Wedding funds can come from your and your fiancé’s savings, money you can comfortably set aside from your paychecks and money that others will be contributing. Establish a separate savings or checking account that is strictly for wedding expenses.

3) Make Your Money Work For You
If you get a chunk of cash early on – say a contribution from your parents or his – invest in a short term CD which can earn interest in the time before you need to pay vendors.

4) Credit Cards
Use them carefully. Only put on your cards what you can comfortably pay off each month. You don’t want to start your marriage in debt. Choose cards that offer some type of rewards, such as points, cash back or free airline tickets.

5) Non-Peak Times
Consider holding your wedding during non-peak times. This could be a non-traditional day of the week (a Friday or Sunday often costs less than a Saturday), or a non-typical month (January or February rather than June or September).

The time of day can also impact your wallet – plan to get married in the morning and have a reception lunch instead of a dinner. Luncheon and brunch menus are less expensive than dinners. An added plus is that guests tend to drink less during the day, so you’ll also save on liquor costs.

6) Non-Peak Times (Part 2)
If you really want a Saturday evening event, avoid the typical dinner hour. Plan to have your ceremony later, such as 6:30 or 7:00 pm, and follow it with a dessert reception rather than a full sit down dinner. Most people will have eaten dinner by the time your event starts, but to be sure, put “Dessert Reception” on your invitation so there will be no confusion.

7) Invitations
Forgo a separate Reception Card and use “corner copy.” Your reception information will be printed at the bottom of the Invitation. You’ll see considerable savings by only having to pay a nominal fee (~$10 regardless of quantity) compared to $60-$70 or more for 100 Reception Cards. And one less card in your invitation ensemble could mean less postage.

8) Ceremony Decor
Use the KISS rule (Keep It Simple, Sweetie). Don’t put flowers on every pew, and on the sides, and at the entry and at the back . . . Where will your guests be looking? That’s right, where you’ll be exchanging your vows, so this is where to put decor. Still keep it simple by accentuating the area with something simple like a nice arch or columns, with greenery. (Rental greens cost less than cut floral arrangements).

9) Ceremony Decor (part 2)
Get the most from your money by making your ceremony decor do double duty at the reception. Use bridesmaids’ bouquets to dress up the head table or cake table. A unity candle arrangement is the perfect size for a head table or sweetheart table centerpiece. Pew decor can also be placed on the cake table.

These tips aren’t just for the small budget wedding. Regardless of how much you are able to spend on your wedding, these ideas will help you get the biggest bang for your buck.

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