The Guest List

wedding guest listDeciding who to invite and how many to invite are major decisions that will impact much of your wedding planning effort.

But before you start writing out the list, do some serious thinking. Sit down with your fiancé and talk about what kind of wedding you want. Have you dreamt of a huge wedding with nearly everyone you know in attendance or do you prefer a more intimate gathering of your closest family and friends? What is your budget? Does that mean that you have a few guests for an elegant sit down dinner or a big gathering at a buffet?

Once you have a handle on the size of the wedding, you can begin to gather guests’ names.

There are a few different ways to assemble the guest list. The simplest, and more traditional way is to divide the list 50 – 50 between your family and your fiance’s family. Or you can divide the list in thirds – 1/3 to the couple and 1/3 each to your families.

Know that there is some flexibility in the numbers. As a general rule 15 – 20% of those invited will be unable to attend for a variety of reasons.

3 Guest List SNAFU’s That Will Make You Go “AARRGGHHH” on Your Wedding Day (And What to Do About Them)

Once the potential list is assembled from all parties, you may find that some cuts will have to be made.

Sometimes it can be a bit tricky deciding who and how many potential guests have to be cut from the list. An easy way is to have everyone cut a set number from their list, or have the person with the longest list make the cuts. You can set cut people criteria based on categories, such as business associates, casual acquaintances, or friends you haven’t seen in years. You may decide not to include children. Whatever method is chosen, try to be fair and equitable.

When making your lists don’t forget to include your fiance’s immediate family, your officiant, and everyone in your wedding party as well as their spouses or dates.

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Wedding Cake Q & A

Q. – Should my cake match my dress or will that be too much?

A. – As long as your wedding cake looks like a cake and not a mini person in a wedding gown it should be fine.

Unique embellishments, like beading, lace, or ruffles, look beautiful on a wedding cake, as do mini rosettes and appliques.

However your cake doesn’t have to match your dress if you don’t want it to.

photo credit of cake with blue flowers: Ceressa Bateman via photopin
photo credit of wedding gowns: Maegan Tintari via photopin
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Looking Good – Tips on Formal Wear

formal wear tuxedoMost people would agree that there is something special about a man in a tux. They just look good.

But they would look even better if they took the time to ensure that the tuxedos they wear fit. There are some tips for insuring that tuxedos (or for that matter any suit) fits properly.

  • Buttons – For men’s jackets on tuxedos or suits, the simplest rule is to follow the “always-sometimes-never” rule. For all occasions, always button the top button, sometimes the middle button, and never the bottom button.
  • Sleeves – Some formal wear shops don’t pay attention to sleeve length. Granted a rental suit won’t fit like a tailored or custom fit jacket, but attention to the sleeve length makes a huge difference. It always looks best if about 1/4″ of the shirt cuff peeks out below the sleeve when the arms are at his side and relaxed. More than that or an “ocean” of cuff peeking out can end up looking sloppy.
  • Jackets – The best length for a jacket is when arms are relaxed at the man’s side the bottom of the jacket hits about an inch above his knuckles. The shoulder seam should hit exactly where his shoulder ends. More than that and the jacket looks too big with the seam sliding down the arm. Less than that it looks like his jacket is a size too small.
  • Trousers – Hem length on trousers can be hotly debated and individual men have their own preferences, but what you want to avoid are pants that are obviously too short or too long. The best rule of thumb is hem the pants so that there is a slight break (if any) and the hem should just touch the shoelaces.

Be sure to have the men in your wedding party order their tuxes from a reputable dealer. This gives the shop plenty of time to get merchandise in, and you have a better chance of having a suit that fits well

Also, have the men pick up their tuxes as soon as the formal wear shop allows, and remind them to try on the tux and check that all accessories (cufflinks, studs, tie, etc.) are there before leaving the store. That way there is still time to make any adjustments if something is missing or doesn’t fit properly.

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