Bride & Groom Q&A What Do I Do With My Engagement Ring?







Q. – During the wedding ceremony, what am I supposed to do with my engagement ring? Do I leave it on my finger or what?

A. – There are several different options for what you can do with the engagement ring before the ceremony.

Traditionally, the wedding band is worn “closest to the heart” meaning it is placed on your finger first, with the engagement ring afterwards. So there is no mishap with accidentally dropping the engagement ring during the ceremony, or having it “upstage” the wedding band, most brides place their engagement ring on their right hand before the processional. After the recessional, the bride will move the it back to her left hand ring finger.

However, some brides like the idea of having the engagement ring on their finger first, before the wedding band is placed on the finger – their reasoning is that their fiancé gave them the engagement ring first, so they want to wear the rings in the same order that they were received.

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Something else to think about is what other jewelry will you be wearing on your wedding day? If you are already wearing a ring on your right hand ring finger (maybe an heirloom ring as your “something old” or “something borrowed”?), it may be a bit awkward to wear your engagement ring on that finger as well.

You may consider having your maid of honor wear the engagement ring, then switch it back to your finger after the ceremony.

Whatever your preference, do whatever is most comfortable, and makes the most sense for you.

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Top 5 Mistakes Brides Make While Shopping for Her Wedding Gown

wedding dresses - wedding dress shoppingShopping for wedding dresses is exciting. It should be fun and stress-free. But there are a few things to avoid to make the experience as joyful (and productive) as possible.

Bringing an Entourage
This is probably the most common mistake. Sure, you want to share this adventure with your mom, your fiance’s mom, and all of your ladies, but . . .

Too many people = too many opinions.

And when everyone is voicing their opinion – or even worse, when you love the dress, but it gets a “thumbs down” from everyone else – it becomes easy to get discouraged, and lose sight of what you really want.

Trying on Too Many Dress Styles
Of course you don’t want to limit yourself to just trying on a couple styles, but don’t try on every style available.

You know the styles that you like, and if you’re wearing something you love and makes you feel confident, you’ll look even better. Also, be open to suggestions from the consultant at the bridal salon, as she is trained to find styles that will work best with and look fabulous on your body type.

Requesting a Smaller Size
Wedding gowns are not sized like regular, ready-to-wear clothing.

Sure, you can go to just about any clothing store, pick something of the rack based on size, and it will fit. Not always so with wedding gowns.

Due to how the fabric is cut at the manufacturers, you will most likely need a size that is larger than what you are. Do not be offended! And don’t think that the salon is trying to sell you a too-large gown so they can make more money on alterations. They’re not. They’re just going by the sizing charts that the gown manufacturers provide them.

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Forgetting to Bring Dress Shoes
Unless you’re used to walking around in heels all day, you’ll probably want to wear a comfortable pair of flats. But be sure to bring a pair of shoes that are similar to the ones you plan to wear on your wedding day. That way you’ll know whether the shoes you have in mind will look right with your dress.

Choosing a Gown That is a Current Trend
There’s nothing wrong with choosing a gown that’s on trend, IF it fits your personal and wedding styles.

Be careful if you choose a wedding gown that is very trendy. Years from now, as you’re looking back at your wedding photos, you don’t want to be cringing with “What was I thinking?” on your mind. It’s always best to stay true to your personal style.

Choose a gown because you really love it, NOT because it’s the latest trend.

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Ordering Your Wedding Gown Online

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There probably isn’t a wedding related item that holds a greater importance or personal connection to a bride than her wedding gown. More time and emotion is usually invested in shopping for wedding dresses than in any other part of the celebration.

Because of its importance (both as a practical indicator of the degree of formality planned and an emotional indicator of how the bride sees herself on this her day of days), little could be more important than where it is purchased.

Budget minded brides who may be trying to save money on their wedding may be tempted to cut corners on their gown by buying sight unseen from an internet source.

An overwhelming number of bridal experts would caution a bride not to take that step. Be extremely cautious if you are considering ordering the gown of your dreams at a discount over the phone, the internet or by mail. Beware if considering ordering your wedding gown online.

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Why? What can happen?

Listen to the woes of some brides and the problems they encountered.

  • Received a gown that is not the style, color or size dress she ordered
  • Received a gown that has obvious flaws, spots and missing parts
  • Got a cheap copy of the dress shown in the picture
  • Got a “look-a-like” made from an inferior fabric from what she ordered
  • The gown was not delivered on time
  • Did not get the gown at all

Most “discount” sources demand full payment in advance and in full, so if you have any trouble with the order, you are left trying to solve problems long distance with a vendor who already has your money.

Even if there is no issue and you get it, you’ll still need to arrange local resources to handle the alterations and pressing.

We urge brides to carefully weigh their decisions to buy on line or from a warehouse operation from a vendor with whom they have no relationship versus working with a reputable highly recommended local full service bridal salon that will stand behind every order and promptly solve any problems that may be encountered.

Good bridal salon consultants will help the bride on a budget find the dress of her dreams.

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So You Want to Be a Wedding Planner – Some of My FAQ’s

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Being a professional wedding planner is more than just loving weddings and being able to throw a great party. People interested in becoming a wedding planner often contact me about how to get started. Below are some of the more common questions asked by people who want to be a wedding planner.

(By the way – even though this information is directed at those interested in becoming a planner, it is also useful to someone who is planning her/his own wedding).

1.      What advice would you give to someone starting out in the business?

  • Get as much education (wedding/event related and business related) as you can.
  • Network as much as you can.
  • Read, read, read! Read bridal magazines like Brides, Martha Stewart Weddings, Grace Ormonde, etc., (what brides are looking at). Read books and magazines on decorating, flowers, etc. Read trade publications such as Vows, Special Events Magazine, and Cater Source. Read wedding blogs such as Style Me Pretty, Wedding Bee, or (my personal favorite) Preston Bailey.
  • Join (and participate in) organizations (wedding related and business related).
  • Take the time to make appointments to visit other vendors. (Remember, referrals go both ways).
  • Remember that it is UNETHICAL to misrepresent yourself by saying you are a bride (or getting a friend or family member to do so) in order to get information from other consultants.
  • Take it slow and steady, you’ve got a lot of relationships to develop and maintain, and when they say it takes as least five years to establish a new business, believe it. But the time invested is worth it.
  • Be sure to give yourself regular “off time,” especially if yours is a home based business. (This has been hard for me to do, but my husband and our 20 year old son give me incentive).

2.     What wedding associations/organizations are there?

There are several reputable associations, including:

Some consultants will swear by one and not another, and vice versa. Look into what’s available to determine which one(s) will suit you best.

3.     What would you consider to be the most demanding part of your job as a consultant?

Keeping brides, (as well as grooms, and other wedding professionals) informed and educated as to what professional wedding planners/consultants/coordinators truly do, and what differentiates the “professional” from the “hobbyist.”

Being a wedding consultant is nothing like what is usually shown in the movies or on tv, and isn’t the high-paying, oh-so-glamorous get-rich profession as so many seem to believe.

Other tips, suggestions include:

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4.     Be aware that there are no “typical” work weeks, and that you WILL be expected to work evenings, weekends, tomorrow, etc. While I find being a bridal consultant to be rewarding, it isn’t all “fun and glamorous.” Contrary to what many people think, it is not all about getting to go to a lot of parties. It is work.

5.     Contact local wedding related companies. Are they hiring? While the position(s) they have are not wedding consulting, you will gain valuable “behind the scenes” experience.

6.     This is a field that relies heavily on good communication skills, both verbal and written.

Before contacting any wedding related companies, take the time to find out the name of the contact person, including proper spelling. This is a detail oriented profession, and addressing someone by their name rather than a generic “dear sir or madam” or the like, or misspelling their name, is one detail not to be missed.

While you’re sure to be enthusiastic and excited, you need to be an active and effective listener (talking 90 miles a minute without taking a breath is not good). Also, clarify and summarize details of the conversation (ex. if an appointment has been set, state “we’ll be meeting at 2:00 at such and such place on Tuesday the 23rd.”)

You only get one chance at a first impression, and if you use poor grammar/spelling/punctuation, repeatedly forget the person’s name, etc. you will not be taken seriously, and may not get another chance.

7.     Keep in mind that many wedding planning companies may be just a “one-man- or one-woman-show” and do not have any paying positions to offer, but may be open to having someone job shadow, with the experience being the payment.

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