Sometimes wedding advice comes in for form of a word or two. Last week I talked about one of my favorite quotes (“The most damaging phrase in the language is, ‘It’s always been done that way.’” by Grace Hopper, Ph. D.)
Today I want to talk about one of the most damaging words – “Should.”
Wedding planning is filled with wonderful options.
The word “should” implies that there is a right and a wrong way – essentially making options pointless.
With so many decisions involved in planning a wedding, it is too easy to get caught up in what “should” be done.
Really, there are really only two things that “should” be done, 1) get a marriage license, and 2) make sure the person who is performing the ceremony can legally do so.
Everything else is optional.
Ask yourself:
• Are you like the couple who is getting married the week after you?
• Do you like exactly the same things as the next couple?
• Is your wedding style just like other couples’ styles?
• Is your relationship with your fiancé just like other couples?
I’m guessing that you probably answered “No” to each of those questions.
So. . .
If you aren’t the same as anyone else, why “should” you be doing the same things as them?
Simple answer, you shouldn’t. Because there is no “should”.
So if you hear a vendor remotely using the word “should,” as in “you should do this,” “this should be put here,” “your event should be this way,” and so on, stop and politely tell them that you have something else in mind for your wedding. Then you can have a discussion with them to see how that can be arranged.
I mean, doesn’t it kind of make you wonder how much thought he/she is really putting into your wedding if they’re lumping the details of your wedding in with all the others?
How “cookie cutter” is his/her vision for your event?
Hearts, Joy, Love!
Jean
If you have questions or are looking for fun ideas, contact me at jean@weddingsfromtheheart.net or at 937-581-3647.
