Ok. There’s a new trend called sologamy making its way around that I just don’t get.
This trend is people, usually women, are marrying themselves. Yes, you read that right. They are getting married… to themselves. Wearing a white dress, carrying a bouquet and having a reception.
There is even a word for this – sologomy.
Depending on which article you happen to read on the subject, this is either an empowering act – celebrating their independent status, while dispelling the stigma of being unmarried when you reach “a certain age”, or just a sad and bitter feminist who’s tired of always being asked why she isn’t married.
Yes – believing that your life is enough even if you aren’t part of a couple is a positive emotional way to be. Being single isn’t bad, and no one should ever be made to feel any less because they are single.
But does there really need to be sologamy and a ceremony to proclaim that they are “enough” even though they aren’t in a romantic relationship with another person? Isn’t their belief that they don’t have to be part of a couple sufficient?
Why can’t people just live their lives without having to prove something to others that probably doesn’t need proving at all?
Maybe I’m wrong on this, so a little enlightening is welcome.
Do you know someone who has married themselves, or considered sologamy? What do you think? Let me know in the comments below.
Hearts, Joy, Love!
Jean
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Interesting. I’ve never heard of this but now that it’s on my radar, I’d like to know more. Do individuals marrying themselves throw a reception party after the ceremony?
From what I’ve read, some do the whole white dress, ceremony with reception afterwards.
Thanks for writing this post. It is a subject I’ve always been curious about and wanted to look into more . . .
I just recently heard about it. After looking into it more, opinions seem to be on the far ends of the spectrum.
I’ve never heard of this. In my opinion everyone can do what makes them happy. If it makes you happy to celebrate not being married than go for it!
Nicole | The Professional Mom Project
Great point. The world needs more happy occasions.