If you are planning your wedding, you might be already looking for candidates to be your bridesmaid.
There are so many things to arrange for your weddings, such as the venue, photographer, dress, band/dj, decorations, the cake, and the people who will be standing by your side.
Picking the wrong bridesmaid can, however, have disastrous consequences. While you might not be a mind reader, you can pay attention to the person’s behavior and look out for the telling signs of a bad bridesmaid to avoid disappointment. Find out below how to spot a potential bad bridesmaid.
1. She Can’t Keep Her Mouth Shut
A bridesmaid needs to be chatty and good with people, but she also must listen. If you are planning your wedding and all you hear about is someone else’s marriage or her relationship issues, you should think twice before you ask her to be your bridesmaid. If she loves gossip, it’s likely that you too could soon find yourself in the spotlight (and not in a good way), and every guest will know more about your wedding plans (including disasters) than you.
A bridesmaid needs to be discreet, especially if you are planning a surprise for some of the guests. Look out for girls who talk too much: they don’t make good bridesmaids.
2. She Has The Green Eyes
No, I don’t mean her eye color, but the jealous “green eyed monster.” We often feel obligated to ask our childhood friend to be a bridesmaid. Sometimes it’s not such a good idea.
If you used to go out partying and she’d get upset when you had a boyfriend to go with and she didn’t, or she didn’t feel comfortable joining you and your partner for dinner if she was single, you might have a problem. Even if she doesn’t show it, she might have the green eyed monster eating away all her goodwill, and she could end up sabotaging your wedding, even unintentionally. Pay close attention to her attitude and check again to make sure that you are on the same page and she is really happy for you.
3. She Is A Party Animal
Bridesmaids who love partying and drink too much can ruin your wedding reception. Before you ask your friend to be your bridesmaid, you need to do a reality check. You don’t want your wedding getting ruined by her after a night of heavy drinking. Make sure that she knows when to stop, and she doesn’t get overly argumentative when she had a few glasses of wine.
You don’t want your bridesmaid to cause drama and run off in the middle of the night to get drunk and forget about her important role. The last thing you want to do on your wedding day is have to search for her and find her blacked out in the toilet.
4. She Is Constantly Late
If she turns up late all the time without a good reason, you might be heading towards a disaster if you ask her to be your bridesmaid. Constantly being late is a sign of a lack of organizational and planning skills. A bridesmaid needs to keep deadlines you have for your wedding. If she is in charge of ordering the flowers and she forgets about it, your wedding can be ruined.
Make sure you can trust and depend on her with simple tasks and she can turn up for meetings on time, or you will have to spend extra time and energy picking up the pieces after her.
5. She Is Disorganized And Messy
If she cannot keep her own place in order, how can you expect your future bridesmaid to check the arrangements of flowers, tables, and adjust the dresses of flower girls? What if she misplaces her dress and can’t find it on your special day? You don’t want your bridesmaid to create chaos on your wedding by losing accessories, leaving her makeup around to stain the white dress, or burn a hole on a shirt because she forgot that the iron is on.
6. She Loves The Spotlight
One of the worst types of bridesmaids is the one that wants to be the center of attention all the time. Just imagine that you’re having photos taken by your professional photographer, such as Kortni Ellett Wedding Photographer, before the wedding, and your bridesmaid photobombs each picture.
A self-centered bridesmaid loves hearing her own voice and will become bossy. She will want to be in charge, and forget to ask you for permission before ordering flowers or other decorations. She will praise her skills in front of everyone, belittling your efforts, and take credit for everything done right. She will brag about her choice of dress, and pose for hours instead of helping out. She might even post the pictures on social media out of pure vanity before your wedding day.
7. She Is Overly Competitive
While being competitive can be a good thing, it’s not the best if you are trying to work as a team. She has to have the best ideas, and doesn’t want to listen to the other bridesmaids. She’ll constantly seek attention and confirmation, and in the end, cause more headache than you can imagine. She might want to pick the one dress that suits her but looks like a potato sack on the rest of your bridesmaids so she’ll look better than others. She might even want to outshine you and have extraordinary makeup on your wedding day, so people look at her instead of you.
Picking the right bridesmaid can be a challenging task. Make sure that you look out for these telltale signs and choose somebody who is reliable, a good team player, and organized.
You want everything to go smoothly on your wedding, and a good bridesmaid can help you with this. Pick the wrong friend, and disaster is practically guaranteed.
* This is a contributed post
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