Potential Bad Bridesmaid? – 7 Telltale Signs to Look For

If you are planning your wedding, you might be already looking for candidates to be your bridesmaid.

There are so many things to arrange for your weddings, such as the venue, photographer, dress, band/dj, decorations, the cake, and the people who will be standing by your side.

Picking the wrong bridesmaid can, however, have disastrous consequences. While you might not be a mind reader, you can pay attention to the person’s behavior and look out for the telling signs of a bad bridesmaid to avoid disappointment. Find out below how to spot a potential bad bridesmaid.

1. She Can’t Keep Her Mouth Shut

A bridesmaid needs to be chatty and good with people, but she also must listen. If you are planning your wedding and all you hear about is someone else’s marriage or her relationship issues, you should think twice before you ask her to be your bridesmaid. If she loves gossip, it’s likely that you too could soon find yourself in the spotlight (and not in a good way), and every guest will know more about your wedding plans (including disasters) than you.

A bridesmaid needs to be discreet, especially if you are planning a surprise for some of the guests. Look out for girls who talk too much: they don’t make good bridesmaids.

Bridesmaids!
“Bridesmaids!” by Joseph Novak is licensed under CC BY 2.0

2. She Has The Green Eyes

No, I don’t mean her eye color, but the jealous “green eyed monster.” We often feel obligated to ask our childhood friend to be a bridesmaid. Sometimes it’s not such a good idea.

If you used to go out partying and she’d get upset when you had a boyfriend to go with and she didn’t, or she didn’t feel comfortable joining you and your partner for dinner if she was single, you might have a problem. Even if she doesn’t show it, she might have the green eyed monster eating away all her goodwill, and she could end up sabotaging your wedding, even unintentionally. Pay close attention to her attitude and check again to make sure that you are on the same page and she is really happy for you.

3. She Is A Party Animal

Bridesmaids who love partying and drink too much can ruin your wedding reception. Before you ask your friend to be your bridesmaid, you need to do a reality check. You don’t want your wedding getting ruined by her after a night of heavy drinking. Make sure that she knows when to stop, and she doesn’t get overly argumentative when she had a few glasses of wine.

You don’t want your bridesmaid to cause drama and run off in the middle of the night to get drunk and forget about her important role. The last thing you want to do on your wedding day is have to search for her and find her blacked out in the toilet.

4. She Is Constantly Late

If she turns up late all the time without a good reason, you might be heading towards a disaster if you ask her to be your bridesmaid. Constantly being late is a sign of a lack of organizational and planning skills. A bridesmaid needs to keep deadlines you have for your wedding. If she is in charge of ordering the flowers and she forgets about it, your wedding can be ruined.

Make sure you can trust and depend on her with simple tasks and she can turn up for meetings on time, or you will have to spend extra time and energy picking up the pieces after her.

5. She Is Disorganized And Messy

If she cannot keep her own place in order, how can you expect your future bridesmaid to check the arrangements of flowers, tables, and adjust the dresses of flower girls? What if she misplaces her dress and can’t find it on your special day? You don’t want your bridesmaid to create chaos on your wedding by losing accessories, leaving her makeup around to stain the white dress, or burn a hole on a shirt because she forgot that the iron is on.

6. She Loves The Spotlight

One of the worst types of bridesmaids is the one that wants to be the center of attention all the time. Just imagine that you’re having photos taken by your professional photographer, such as Kortni Ellett Wedding Photographer, before the wedding, and your bridesmaid photobombs each picture.

A self-centered bridesmaid loves hearing her own voice and will become bossy. She will want to be in charge, and forget to ask you for permission before ordering flowers or other decorations. She will praise her skills in front of everyone, belittling your efforts, and take credit for everything done right. She will brag about her choice of dress, and pose for hours instead of helping out. She might even post the pictures on social media out of pure vanity before your wedding day.

7. She Is Overly Competitive

Bride With Bridesmaids
“Bride With Bridesmaids” by Eden, Janine and Jim is licensed under CC BY 2.0

While being competitive can be a good thing, it’s not the best if you are trying to work as a team. She has to have the best ideas, and doesn’t want to listen to the other bridesmaids. She’ll constantly seek attention and confirmation, and in the end, cause more headache than you can imagine. She might want to pick the one dress that suits her but looks like a potato sack on the rest of your bridesmaids so she’ll look better than others. She might even want to outshine you and have extraordinary makeup on your wedding day, so people look at her instead of you.

Picking the right bridesmaid can be a challenging task. Make sure that you look out for these telltale signs and choose somebody who is reliable, a good team player, and organized.

You want everything to go smoothly on your wedding, and a good bridesmaid can help you with this. Pick the wrong friend, and disaster is practically guaranteed.

* This is a contributed post

I hope you found this information useful!

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Bad Brides – or How Not To Treat Your Bridesmaids

How Not to Treat Your Bridesmaids - Bride & Bridesmaids
You’re just starting with your wedding planning and it’s time to choose your wedding party. “Hmmm. Who will be my bridesmaids?”

Choosing a bridesmaid is a very important task of wedding planning. These ladies (or men, who are called bridesmen, or wedding attendants) have been by your side through the years. They’ve supported you through thick and thin. They are your besties – the people you couldn’t imagine not having by your side during this exciting time of your life.

So why in recent years are we hearing of more and more brides behaving like bridesmaids aren’t cherished friends and family members at all, but, well . . . are going ‘zilla on them, with unreasonable demands and lofty expectations?

Changing Their Appearance

How Not to Treat Your Bridesmaids - Sad Bridesmaid

One bride asked her bridesmaids to gain weight so she would look better by comparison.

Another she expected her ‘maids to wear heel varying heights so they would all appear to be the same height. The bridesmaids’ heights ranged from 5’2″ to 5’9″, meaning that one lady was to wear 7 inch heels.

One asked her ladies to all dye their hair blonde so that she (the bride) would be the only brunette.

Another bridesmaid was asked to have a breast reduction so she would fit into the same dress as the rest of the bridesmaids.

Your bridesmaids are your best gal (or guy) pals. They are the people in your life who you love and cherish. You’ve chosen them for who they are. Why change them?

Exchanging Them

How Not to Treat Your Bridesmaids - Angry Bridesmaids

You’ve chosen your bridesmaids based on your relationship with them, not on how they look. Most women don’t look like models. So don’t base your bridesmaid choices on appearance.

Check out this episode of Absolutely Fabulous. Fast forward to 36:52 and watch mother-of-the-bride Edina (“Sweetie, Darling!”) swap her daughter’s bridesmaid for a Gucci model.

Hopefully no one will do that for real, but believe it or not, you can hire a professional bridesmaid. I get hiring someone for assistance behind the scenes, but yes you can actually hire someone who will walk down the aisle and stand up at the altar with you.

Bridesmaid Banishment
How Not to Treat Your Bridesmaids - Firing a Bridesmaid

Some brides have even gone so far as to threaten to fire their bridesmaids if they didn’t follow her “ground rules.”

These ground rules included:

  • Enforced bed times leading up to the wedding (can’t have saggy, baggy eyes)
  • Bathing suits must be strapless (can’t have terrible tan lines)
  • Changes in haircuts/coloring must be pre-approved

A follow-up note ended with, “Failure to adhere to my commandments, can result in Bridalparty banishment!”

Pay For The Honor
How Not to Treat Your Bridesmaids - Face Palm - Head in Hands

Ok, this one will make you face palm and ask “why, oh why?”

The most recent bit of bad bride behavior with bridesmaids is fairly recent. Apparently this bride “sent out dozens of…invitations, to various girls. . . to attend and participate in a ‘bidding auction’ on the six spots in her bridal party.” Apparently the bride and groom plan to use the money to pay for the wedding and honeymoon.

It’s unclear why this bride sent out invitations to a bidding auction. It doesn’t appear that she just couldn’t choose from so many people (as many were acquaintances, and not close buds). Was it a grab for money? Some other reason entirely?

Regardless as to her “why,” you just don’t do that to people!

Other things brides have asked of their ladies were:

  • cover tattoos
  • not getting tattoos
  • not getting a haircut
  • grow out their bangs
  • get a fake tan (the bridesmaid had a pale complexion)
  • get botox
  • Wedding dress contribution – one bride ended up buying a wedding gown that was way out of her budget. She then wanted her bridesmaids to contribute $150 each to help pay for it.

Want to read the entire details of these bad bride behaviors? You can find the original articles here:

Bid to be a bridesmaid
Professional bridesmaids
Demands made on bridesmaids
And more demands
Help pay for wedding gown

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Expressing the 2017 Color Trends in Your Spring Wedding Style

2017 wedding color trends blue

Spring is finally here and it’s time to celebrate the upcoming wedding season, and the fabulous color palettes that express the freshness of the season.

Of the top color schemes of 2017, several incorporate shades of blue. Blue is such a versatile color, evoking feelings of such as sophistication, playfulness, and sweetness.

2017 Color Trends - blue color palette

From deep midnight blue and sapphire to pale shades such as aqua or French blue, there is the perfect blue hue for every taste and wedding style – whether it’s rustic and more causal to an event that is elegant, which is further expressed in the choice of accent colors.

2017 Color Trends - dusty blue blush gold

2017 Color Trends - navy gold coral

2017 Color Trends - fushia grape snowcone

What’s one of the first things couples think of?

What they’re going to wear, of course!

Attire

For Her

How about a white wedding gown with blue accents?

Or for something more daring, walk down the aisle in a wedding gown that is entirely blue.

2017 Color Trends - blue wedding gown

Accessories

2017 Color Trends - blue swarovski crystal earrings
2017 Color Trends - blue nail polish

2017 Color Trends - blue wedding shoes

For Him

Grooms and men in the wedding party will need a tuxedo or suit fitting with the formality of your wedding.

The Black Tux offers several stylish attire for the men, as well as ties, vests and shoes.

Here are some fashionably elegant and sophisticated choices that will coordinate with your blue color scheme.

navy suit

midnight pin dot tuxedo

midnight blue tuxedo

royal navy blue suit

Flowers

Let’s start with the bridal bouquet. This gorgeous blue bouquet is a show-stopper with orchids accented with a few white roses.

 blue bridal bouquet
Photo Credit ktay21 / 123RF Stock Photo

If your taste leans more toward a traditional bouquet, accent a white bouquet with a few blue blooms.

Bridal Bouquet Rose Blue Wedding Bouquet White

If your wedding party will be in blue, bouquets with lighter colored blooms will look fabulous and really pop against the blue fabric.

2017 Color Trends - blue bridesmaids dresses

For your centerpieces and decor, you have many options –

Floral arrangements that are pink . . .

pink roses Photo Credit: yeko / 123RF Stock Photo

shades of blue . . .

white and blue floral centerpiece
Photo credit: darkkong / 123RF Stock Photo

or a mix of colors.

pink roses, ranunculus, grape hyacinths
Photo credit: funlovingvolvo / 123RF Stock Photo

Color Tip: When talking with your wedding pros, don’t rely on color name only. One person’s idea of Indigo for example will be way different than the next person’s. Bring color swatches, photos, paint chips, whatever it takes to show them the color you are actually thinking of.

Other Decor

Seating Chart
blue wedding seating chart
Seating chart by Yellow Belly Project

Lighting
2017 Color Trends - blue lighting

2017 Color Trends - blue lighting
Linens
blue table linens

Napkins
blue napkins

Cake

Just a touch color . . .

white cake with blue orchids

white fondant cake with blue gumpaste flowers
or in full color.

tiffany blue wedding cake

Of course there are a gazillion more ways to incorporate your color scheme into your wedding. How have you chosen to express your color palette for your wedding day?

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Your Bridesmaids Don’t Have to Match

The days of 6 young women dressed identically, with matching shoes, matching hairdos, gloves, earrings, and flowers preceding the bride down the aisle are disappearing.

 

 

 

 

 

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Today’s bridesmaids have the luxury of picking out their own best look (that looks flattering, AND might actually be worn again) in various lengths, color families, fabrics, and styles.

 

 

 

 

 

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It can be very difficult to put everyone in the same color and style, and have everyone involved look and feel good. “Everyone has her own personal style. An eclectic mix looks more special.” (Lauren Conrad of Paper Crown Bridesmaids).

 

 

 

 

 

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Here are some elegant options to consider:

    • Pick two or three colors that work well together (ex. peach and taupe, gold and bronze, etc.) and let the bridesmaids pick a dress in the color and style they wish. You can specify length and neckline but the color choice is up to the bridesmaid.
    • Are sparkles your thing? Outfit your maids in gowns with bling – sequins, beads, studs can work as long as the shine in uniform.
    • If you want them to look coordinated but not identical, select several different styles that you like in a color you want, but let them pick the dress they want from your selections.
    • Choose separates. A number of bridesmaid manufacturers have created lines that offer skirts of varying length with 3-6 options for tops. You pick the color and they pick their style combos.
    • Pick a color and let your ladies choose their fabric and style.
  • Don’t forget prints. Once a color group has been chosen, consider putting the bridesmaids in prints and the Maid of Honor in solid color – or reverse it with your Maid of Honor in a print and the bridesmaids in solids.

Be sure to take into consideration the individual tastes and preferences when choosing your attendants’ gowns. Look for a uniting factor – color, length, fabric, or silhouette – for a cohesive look.

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The Bridesmaid Entourage….Coordinating Your Group of Gals by Kristi Richardson – Bloomed to Last

 

 

 

 

What a difference a year makes. Even though there is much argument over the state of the economy, one trend is quite clear to me….the growth of the bridal party or as I like to say, the Entourage. Last year the average bridal party had 3 bridesmaids and 3 groomsmen. Not this year. That number has doubled! I have even had bridal parties with 8 or more bridesmaids and groomsmen. That’s 16 or more attendees. WOW!

Don’t get me wrong, from a business perspective I’m not complaining. I think it’s great that you want ALL of your dear family & friends stand up with you. Really! But, what I think happens is that couples don’t really understand that having a larger bridal party also means more headaches, greater coordination, and larger budgets.

Is it worth it? Absolutely…as long as you understand this going in. Trying to coordinate 6 attendees on either side can be difficult; especially when it comes to selecting a gown that works with your theme, in your bridesmaids’ budgets, and will be flattering on each of their body types.

Groomsmen, on the other hand, are notorious for procrastinating to have their fittings done… especially when they live out of town. And have you ever tried setting a meeting with 6-12 attendees where everyone could make it? HA!

Don’t forget, then comes selecting accessories, setting up hair appointments, picking out matching shoes, finding transportation to get everyone to and from, and creating timelines/checklists/task etc. Get the picture?

 

 

 

The bigger the Bridesmaid Entourage the bigger your flower budget will need to be, specifically for bouquets. Don’t expect to have custom made bouquets created for less than half the cost of what you spend for your bouquet. (Not going to happen.) It’s not to say that there are not more cost effective alternatives, (which I am going to share with you next), but honestly, be realistic about the cost.

I pride myself and my business on always providing options to my clients. It’s my responsibility as an Event Designer, Décor Diva, and Floral Artist to help them create this stunning look. Most of the bridesmaids’ bouquets I design or create are simpler, slightly different, or smaller than the bridal bouquet. (No one outshines the Bride)

So what can you do when flower bouquets are not an option or you are looking for something totally unique? That’s easy…..there are tons of other non-flower options that can create amazing drama. For example, colorful parasols are stunning, totally stylish, and really cost effective.

 

 

Another great option is candles or lanterns. These are especially perfect for beach, seaside and fall weddings. The also add additional ambience to evening and winter ceremonies. Lanterns and candles come in so many styles, your possibilities are endless. You can dress them up or dress them down. You can add flowers, ribbons, or bows. And don’t forget to reuse them at the reception to light things up. (Gotta love create once and use twice designs.)

Fans are delightful non-floral bouquet options. They are wonderful for summer, Asian, Vintage or other themed weddings (like Peacock) They come is a variety of colors, sizes, and materials; ranging widely in cost.

I can’t tell you how many pomanders I have made in my career. These spherical bouquets can be made from a variety of materials. Grapevine or twig balls are really popular. But I have created ones using ribbon, shells, buttons, lace, berries, rhinestones, etc. What’s great about this style is that can be converted into centerpieces or be hung above the dance floor for a secondary use. There cost will depend on the materials you choose and the overall size.

 

 

 

 

 

 

No matter if you are having 2 bridesmaids or 8, it’s important to understand what it takes to keep your Entourage in style, on budget, and on track to be your amazing supporting cast. I would love to know, “How many attendees are you having in your Bridal Party Entourage?” (Tell me in the comments below)

**If you are struggling trying to keep everyone in line contact me for help at 304-260-6446. Don’t worry, I will have them back on track in no time, you’ll stay on budget, get an amazing look, and have less wedding planning stress.**

Panhandle WV, Shenandoah Valley & Northern Event Planner & Designer, Kristi Richardson, publishes the “Bloomed to Last Secrets” blog filled with secrets, tips and WOWs for planning your fabulous event. Get your exclusive inspiration, tips and tricks at http://www.BloomedToLast.com. Bloomed To Last is an event planning and design company based in the Panhandle of WV, Shenandoah Valley & Northern region of VA, also serving Frederick MD, the District of Columbia and select destination locations.

Happy Planning!
~Kristi

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