All the planning and decision making that go into pulling the gazillion aspects of your wedding into place can leave you stressed out beyond belief. The following pieces of wedding planning advice can help you stay relaxed, organized, and focused on the important aspects of your wedding.
Do whatever you need to do to unwind, relax and sleep well
Take your vitamins, exercise, and find effective emotional outlets for releasing the stress you feel. Remember your groom. Do fun things together and plan together.
Get and stay organized
Start early and document every decision made around your wedding day. It doesn’t matter if you keep records on line or in file folders or a paper bag. Find a system that works for you, implement it early on, and keep it current.
Determine your wedding priorities
Along with your bride- or groom-to-be, set and agree on priorities. Identify those key items that you both really want (and don’t want), and areas where you want to splurge and can under spend.
Be grateful for all that you have and for everything others are doing for you
You will get gifts, good wishes, and offers to help. Thank those who offer assistance whether you take them up on that offer or not. Because weddings are happy occasions, people feel good and want to help if they can. It’s nice to be a part of a positive and joyous event.
Remember your plan and stick with it
Yes, you’ll hear of a great idea or see something at someone else’s wedding that you’d like to adopt for yours, even though you may already have plans in place for your wedding. Be careful of over thinking or playing “one upmanship.” Is this new idea something you really want or makes sense for your wedding? What plans will you have to change or give up for it? Remember to plan your (and your fiance’s) wedding, not copy someone else.
And the best advice of all – let go of bridal guilt!
You can’t make everyone happy all the time. It’s not worth the worry and stress. Sometimes guilt is ok as it can help us acknowledge and deal with others’ feelings. But most of the time we are simply afraid of letting someone down or hurting someone’s feelings. Of course you should be aware of the feelings of others. But remember that on your wedding day, first and foremost, you are there to please yourself and your bride/groom as the two of you begin your new life together.
When it comes to the big purchases that you expect to make in your lifetime, there are few that spring to mind faster than your wedding day. With many weddings costing in the tens of thousands, many couples worry about how it’s going to affect their finances from the moment they start planning.
Which begs the question: does it have to be that way? Does a wedding have to be something that completely drains your bank account?
Of course not! The truth is that weddings have so many details and “moving parts” (ex. special decor, food, entertainment, photographers, etc.) a great deal of money is often spent. However, if you have a lower budget in mind, there are plenty of ways to help keep costs down for your big day. Here are 3 money-saving tips to help from emptying your bank account.
1. Keep things simple
One of the major things that causes weddings to be so expensive is when couples (and their parents) insist on inviting everyone – the co-workers, the second (and third) cousins they haven’t seen in years, the neighbor whose wedding they attended 5 years ago . . .
By keeping things simple and small with your wedding, you can save huge amounts of money. You don’t need to invite everyone you’ve ever known (the bigger the guest list, the bigger the price tag). Instead, just include the people that you really care about.
Another thing that can quickly cause a wedding budget to get out of hand is when couples go overboard on the endless details that they really don’t need.
Things like complex flower arrangements with imported flowers, an unusual venue, pricy favors, elaborate paper goods (such as menu cards and individual escort cards for each guest), and all kinds of decorations might be nice, but they don’t necessarily add to the specialness of your wedding when you get right down to it.
2. Try something different
Of course, if you want to get married without having to spend huge amounts of money then you could try something a bit different. Eloping is never going to be the most common or popular style of wedding but going away and having a quiet ceremony without too much fuss can be incredibly exciting as well as being easier on the wallet.
Think what you want about the stereotype around Vegas weddings, but places like the Little Church of the West offer lovely, intimate ceremonies that aren’t going to cost an arm and a leg. It’s certainly not going to be for everyone, but if you want a wedding that won’t be too expensive, then it’s at least worth considering.
3. Go the homemade route
Of course, if you really want lots of detailed decorations, food, and place settings, there is one thing that you can do instead of spending money on buying them or hiring someone to do them: make them yourself.
Taking a homemade route with your wedding can save you huge amounts of money. Just be careful that you aren’t planning on too many DIY wedding projects, which can end up making life more stressful and gives you a lot more work to do. Get your friends and family involved to help so that you’re not dealing with all of the work by yourself (you can “pay” them with a pizza lunch or dinner).
A lot of couples don’t like the idea of having to make compromises on their wedding plans because they feel like they won’t have a “real wedding” unless it has all of the bells and whistles. It’s important to remember that the most important part of any wedding is getting to promise yourself to the person you love most in this world. That’s what makes it a “real wedding.” As long as you have that, just about everything else is optional.
Right from the moment he (or she) popped the question, there is a never-ending cavalcade of things to do, details to plan, and a constant feeling of “have I forgotten something?”
With an almost never-ending amount of things to have to remember while planning your perfect day, it can seem like this feeling never goes away. While you can draw up lists and plans and make sure that everything you have prepared is thoroughly in your control, there may be things that escape your thoughts, especially if you are blindsided by bigger issues at the time.
Here are some things that you may want to think about that can have a major impact leading up to your big day itself, and afterwards.
Include The Helpers
In other words, your vendors, from the people in the band, your photographer and videographer, as well as your wedding planner. These people need to be taken into account during the big day, and while you may have thought purely in terms of feeding your guests, these people who have worked so tirelessly to make your day so special need feeding too! A lot of caterers will consider your vendor meals at a price concession (couldn’t hurt to ask), so while it is a little bit extra on your budget, you want them to be working at full capacity, so make sure they are fed!
You may want to make a trip to a local bookstore for a type of book that is characteristic of where you’re getting married. But there are also plenty of great guest book suppliers. Pure Invitation provides various designs, depending on your individual style. Also, you don’t want to forget the pens! Having a guest book for your guests to give you their well wishes when they arrive at the reception adds a lovely little touch and gives you a fantastic memento of your perfect day.
If you are not doing assigned seating, you’ll need to think about the fact that people don’t sit next to each other naturally. So make sure that you get an extra few chairs than the amount on your guest list. In addition to this, it’s beneficial to get an extra set of chairs for the ceremony as well as the reception.
If you are getting married in the same venue as you are having the reception, it may be practical to reuse the same set of chairs for the ceremony and the reception.
You’ll also need to think about providing canapés (also called hors d’oeuvres or appetizers) for your guests, as well as the room layout/flow so there isn’t going to be caterers and helpers coming through destroying the ambience.
Your Marriage License
It depends on where you are in the world, but you will need to take your marriage license with you to the venue. Be sure to check for deadlines in applying for this license, and if there are any special documents needed so that your application is completed.
Also, make sure you have somewhere safe to keep your documents. Make sure they are in a secure folder, in a place that is out of the way of any pets or children, because without this piece of paper, you will not be able to get married! There are plenty of folders you can purchase that are nice and secure, but there are ones you can purchase from places like Abbey Stationery that do the job just fine. This folder is also a great place for you to put all your other relevant documentation, such as your ID and your passport, so when you are ready to jet off on honeymoon, it is all in one secure place.
If you’ll need to renew your driver’s license or passport before heading off, try and do this at least 8 weeks before the wedding.
Get Someone To Corral People
It is always helpful to have someone who is able to wrangle people together for photos. Remember, the photographer doesn’t know who the important members of the family are, (and neither does your wedding planner), so it may be worth assigning a member of the family this duty so they can get the desired people quickly. That way, you are able to get through all of the photos you need, without the photographer running over time, and therefore you running over budget.
Check For Food Allergies
While you may love barbecue chicken sticky ribs, your gluten-free vegan guest may not take so kindly to it! So, it’s important to make a note early on in the proceedings of who has food allergies, intolerances, or are vegetarian or vegan. A handy little tip, if you can get a list to your caterer that states where these people are sitting, it is going to be a godsend for them, and makes your day that much smoother.
Thank You Notes
You are obviously grateful that people have come to spend your big day with you, but it’s a thoughtful little touch to send everybody a thank you note, especially for those that bought you gifts. Make sure these notes don’t go out any later than two months after your wedding day.
It can be overwhelming to write personalized and heartfelt thank you notes, especially if you have more than 200 guests in attendance, but be sure to allocate a little bit of time each day to writing these notes, maybe 30 minutes. And, not just your guests, be sure to thank your bridal party, your family, and your parents.
We can get so overwhelmed by the whole process that we will inevitably forget about something, but the important thing in this respect is to plan and to allow sufficient time to think about what you really want for your big day. Little details mean a lot in your wedding, and you want your guests to feel like they have been looked after, so take a few of these ideas into account, and use them in your planning to make their day, as well as yours, extra special.
It is secured at the front of the aisle with pins and tape so it can be easily unrolled, then, once completely unrolled, is secured at the back so it won’t roll back up which helps prevent anyone from tripping.
Sometimes couples prefer to have the aisle runner already in place before the start of the ceremony.
In this case, the center aisle is blocked with ribbon preventing guests from walking on the runner, and guests are seated from the outside aisles (not the center aisle). The ribbon is removed right before the moms are escorted in.
There are many options for aisle runner styles. The most common and economical are made from a durable heavy-weight plastic or rayon. You can find these in the wedding section of some craft stores or in a floral supply store. You can also get them from your florist.
Be extra careful when using an aisle runner for an outdoor wedding ceremony. Since ground is rarely smooth and level (even the best manicured lawns will have some minor bumps and soft spots. May not be easily seen, but easy to find with your foot and potentially wobble, trip, or sprain an ankle).
For an outdoor ceremony, either omit the use of an aisle runner for safety’s sake, or choose one that is more durable such as a carpet runner (can be found in different colors and patterns), or heavy fabric such as burlap.
Make sure to get the length of the aisle before purchasing an aisle runner. They come in 25′ increments, starting at 25′ long and going up to 150′ or more.
Tomorrow is National Tell A Joke Day. It is observed every August 16th.
What’s better than a day filled with laughter?
A joke, quite simply, is something that is said with the purpose to cause amusement or laughter. The final sentence, known as a punchline, often provides a humorous twist or ending.
Jokes come in many different styles, including:
One-liners – As long as there are tests, there will be prayer in schools.
Puns – Have you ever tried to eat a clock? It’s very time consuming.
Stories or anecdotes – Remember when people had diaries and got mad when someone read them? Now they put everything online and get mad when people don’t.
Non Sequiturs (jokes that make no sense) – “Why is a raven like a writing desk?” from Alice in Wonderland.
Parodies – “Like a Surgeon” and pretty much everything else by Weird Al Yankovic.
Knock-Knock jokes –“Knock, knock,” “Who’s There?” “Little old lady.” “Little old lady who?” “I didn’t know you could yodel.”
They can also be physical such as screwball, pranks, pratfalls, and slapstick. The Three Stooges (a personal favorite!) were the epitome of slapstick.
Regardless of the method of delivery, the main purpose of a joke is to entertain by providing humor, even though jokes can sometimes be used to make serious commentary like in the case of satire, (think “The New Yorker” or “Saturday Night Live”).
Jokes have been an integral part of human history for centuries, (it is thought that Palamedes, a Greek mythological figure, invented jokes as well as counting, currency, weights and measures, and several letters of the alphabet), and many great minds have spent time and energy in trying to understand what makes jokes funny.
How to Celebrate?
Tell a joke to every person you meet on that day.
Pick up a joke book and read it in your spare time.
Watch your favorite comedians.
Take a comedy/improv class, or sign up for open mic night at a local club.
Did You Know . . .
. . . Laughing can make us healthier. It improves our immunity, helps regulate blood sugar levels, improves sleep, and releases endorphins (natural “feel good” chemicals) into the brain.
. . . Gelotology (from the Greek gelos “laughter”) is the study of laughter and humor, and their effect on the human body.
. . . Laughing for 10 to 15 minutes can burn up to 40 calories.
Planning a wedding?
Honor National Tell A Joke Day on your wedding day by:
Print a little humorous joke on your programs.
Have a comedian entertain your guests at your reception.
Incorporate jokes into speeches and toasts, . . .
. . . and the MC’s comments.
Jokes can be on little signs or table numbers, . . .
. . .in your ceremony readings,
. . . and in your ceremony vows.
Be sure to clear any jokes that are to be used during the ceremony with your officiant first, and make sure that all jokes (for ceremony and reception) are appropriate for all ages (remember you’ve got grandma and the ring bearer listening).
Here’s a few that you may want to try –
“They’ve been going together for so many years, instead of the Wedding March the organist should have played the Hallelujah Chorus.”
“The bride looks absolutely stunning, the groom looks absolutely stunned!”
“The groom was not a pretty baby – his mother got morning sickness after he was born.”
“The bride wept, the bridesmaids cried – and even the wedding cake was in tiers.”
Spring is finally here and it’s time to celebrate the upcoming wedding season, and the fabulous color palettes that express the freshness of the season.
Of the top color schemes of 2017, several incorporate shades of blue. Blue is such a versatile color, evoking feelings of such as sophistication, playfulness, and sweetness.
From deep midnight blue and sapphire to pale shades such as aqua or French blue, there is the perfect blue hue for every taste and wedding style – whether it’s rustic and more causal to an event that is elegant, which is further expressed in the choice of accent colors.
What’s one of the first things couples think of?
What they’re going to wear, of course!
How about a white wedding gown with blue accents?
Or for something more daring, walk down the aisle in a wedding gown that is entirely blue.
Grooms and men in the wedding party will need a tuxedo or suit fitting with the formality of your wedding.
The Black Tux offers several stylish attire for the men, as well as ties, vests and shoes.
Here are some fashionably elegant and sophisticated choices that will coordinate with your blue color scheme.
Let’s start with the bridal bouquet. This gorgeous blue bouquet is a show-stopper with orchids accented with a few white roses.
Color Tip: When talking with your wedding pros, don’t rely on color name only. One person’s idea of Indigo for example will be way different than the next person’s. Bring color swatches, photos, paint chips, whatever it takes to show them the color you are actually thinking of.
Your photographer is going to be getting a lot of great photos to capture your wedding day. And some of those pictures will be close ups of your hands with your wedding rings.
So why not schedule an appointment with a manicurist to get those fingers photo ready?
Ladies, you’ve got this on your agenda already. But I’m talking to you fellas.
Whoa! What? Get a manicure?
Yes! Let’s put the MAN in those MANi’s.
Of course, I’m not talking high gloss and color, or French tips, but your hands will be on display and your photographer is going to be taking several hand shots with your wedding bands, so your fingers need to look presentable too.
Besides, you deserve a little pampering too!
Be a well-groomed groom. Ditch the dirty or ragged fingernails. Relax at the nail salon and get:
• Trimmed (so your nails are neat and tidy)
• Filed (to even out ragged nails)
• Buffed (instead of polish, for a healthy shine)
• Moisturized (to soften dry skin)
• Treated Cuticles (with an orange stick and cuticle oil, NEVER cut this skin)
Worried that you’re going to be subject to a woman-dominated space getting your “nails done” with all the girls hanging around, talking about all the latest gossip, and girly stuff like shopping?
When scheduling the appointment, be sure to let the folks at the salon know that you’d prefer some privacy.
Carly Mote with Destiny Salon & Spa in Clayton, Ohio tells us that at their salon men can enjoy a relaxing atmosphere in a private room as they get their manicure.
Sitting here in my family room listening to the rain. Not a relaxing patter on the window. It is thundering and coming down hard.
I mean HARD!
So hard, that even with a rain coat and umbrella you’d get drenched.
The sun was shining not just 20 minutes ago! It was nice enough to do a little yard work, or sit outside and have lunch.
But now we’ve got a thunderstorm.
“Why in the world is she talking about the weather?” you’re probably thinking.
From weddings held at parks and shelter houses, to backyards, and venues with lovely outdoor settings – outdoor weddings are on the rise. And with outdoor weddings, you’ve got to contend with the weather.
In a perfect world, it would never rain (and the wind would only be a comfortable breeze) on your wedding day.
In the real world, Mother Nature may have other ideas. And it’s not just rain. There may be wind storms, an unusual cold front, or high humidity or a heat wave.
You can’t really combat this (the weather is going to be what it is), but you can plan ahead in case the weather isn’t cooperative. What if you have rain on your wedding day (or other inclement weather)?
Have a “Plan B” for your wedding with an alternate indoor (or appropriately sheltered/air conditioned/heated) site, and discuss this with your wedding coordinator, as other set-up logistics will be affected. Inform your venue manager and other vendors of your “Plan B,” and let them know who the person is who will designate if “Plan B” has to be put in place.
Some things to take into consideration:
1) Your other vendors needs
• How long does your florist need to set up? Is she decorating an arch and placing lots of flowers along the sides of the aisle, or does she just have to set down a couple floral arrangements?
• Your photographer, videographer, dj, musicians all have equipment that cannot get wet.
2) The comfort of your guests.
• Will there be high humidity, compounded by guests having to sit in the sun?
• Even if the rain has stopped, has the ground been left so slick and muddy that it is unsafe to walk on?
3) The proximity of the site for “Plan B” from your original site
• Is it close enough to be able to direct guests to the “building on the right” instead of the “clearing on the left?”
• Or will your guests have to drive to a second location?
Most of the time plans go as intended, and here’s hoping that you have beautiful weather on your wedding day. But, have a solid “Plan B” in place, and remember, you’re marrying the love of your life, and celebrating this with your closest friends and family!
Offering fabulous tips, and stating, “If you’re starting to feel overwhelmed by all things wedding-related, take heart in knowing you are not alone,” their wonderful advice includes “Divvy up your to-do list,” “Take a break,” and “Hire an event planner.”
I wholeheartedly agree with the first sentence of the article, “It’s an unfortunate, but often inevitable, part of planning a wedding that there are just some things you won’t know or realize until after the big day is over.” I mean, you don’t know what you don’t know. (And when you start planning your wedding it’s inevitable that you won’t know stuff, unless you’ve planned several weddings before).
But your vendor team should be keeping this “unknown information” to a minimum so your planning and wedding day will go as smoothly as possible.
So you don’t end up stressing out over the idea of “what am I missing” here is a link to the original article.