Potential Bad Bridesmaid? – 7 Telltale Signs to Look For

If you are planning your wedding, you might be already looking for candidates to be your bridesmaid.

There are so many things to arrange for your weddings, such as the venue, photographer, dress, band/dj, decorations, the cake, and the people who will be standing by your side.

Picking the wrong bridesmaid can, however, have disastrous consequences. While you might not be a mind reader, you can pay attention to the person’s behavior and look out for the telling signs of a bad bridesmaid to avoid disappointment. Find out below how to spot a potential bad bridesmaid.

1. She Can’t Keep Her Mouth Shut

A bridesmaid needs to be chatty and good with people, but she also must listen. If you are planning your wedding and all you hear about is someone else’s marriage or her relationship issues, you should think twice before you ask her to be your bridesmaid. If she loves gossip, it’s likely that you too could soon find yourself in the spotlight (and not in a good way), and every guest will know more about your wedding plans (including disasters) than you.

A bridesmaid needs to be discreet, especially if you are planning a surprise for some of the guests. Look out for girls who talk too much: they don’t make good bridesmaids.

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2. She Has The Green Eyes

No, I don’t mean her eye color, but the jealous “green eyed monster.” We often feel obligated to ask our childhood friend to be a bridesmaid. Sometimes it’s not such a good idea.

If you used to go out partying and she’d get upset when you had a boyfriend to go with and she didn’t, or she didn’t feel comfortable joining you and your partner for dinner if she was single, you might have a problem. Even if she doesn’t show it, she might have the green eyed monster eating away all her goodwill, and she could end up sabotaging your wedding, even unintentionally. Pay close attention to her attitude and check again to make sure that you are on the same page and she is really happy for you.

3. She Is A Party Animal

Bridesmaids who love partying and drink too much can ruin your wedding reception. Before you ask your friend to be your bridesmaid, you need to do a reality check. You don’t want your wedding getting ruined by her after a night of heavy drinking. Make sure that she knows when to stop, and she doesn’t get overly argumentative when she had a few glasses of wine.

You don’t want your bridesmaid to cause drama and run off in the middle of the night to get drunk and forget about her important role. The last thing you want to do on your wedding day is have to search for her and find her blacked out in the toilet.

4. She Is Constantly Late

If she turns up late all the time without a good reason, you might be heading towards a disaster if you ask her to be your bridesmaid. Constantly being late is a sign of a lack of organizational and planning skills. A bridesmaid needs to keep deadlines you have for your wedding. If she is in charge of ordering the flowers and she forgets about it, your wedding can be ruined.

Make sure you can trust and depend on her with simple tasks and she can turn up for meetings on time, or you will have to spend extra time and energy picking up the pieces after her.

5. She Is Disorganized And Messy

If she cannot keep her own place in order, how can you expect your future bridesmaid to check the arrangements of flowers, tables, and adjust the dresses of flower girls? What if she misplaces her dress and can’t find it on your special day? You don’t want your bridesmaid to create chaos on your wedding by losing accessories, leaving her makeup around to stain the white dress, or burn a hole on a shirt because she forgot that the iron is on.

6. She Loves The Spotlight

One of the worst types of bridesmaids is the one that wants to be the center of attention all the time. Just imagine that you’re having photos taken by your professional photographer, such as Kortni Ellett Wedding Photographer, before the wedding, and your bridesmaid photobombs each picture.

A self-centered bridesmaid loves hearing her own voice and will become bossy. She will want to be in charge, and forget to ask you for permission before ordering flowers or other decorations. She will praise her skills in front of everyone, belittling your efforts, and take credit for everything done right. She will brag about her choice of dress, and pose for hours instead of helping out. She might even post the pictures on social media out of pure vanity before your wedding day.

7. She Is Overly Competitive

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While being competitive can be a good thing, it’s not the best if you are trying to work as a team. She has to have the best ideas, and doesn’t want to listen to the other bridesmaids. She’ll constantly seek attention and confirmation, and in the end, cause more headache than you can imagine. She might want to pick the one dress that suits her but looks like a potato sack on the rest of your bridesmaids so she’ll look better than others. She might even want to outshine you and have extraordinary makeup on your wedding day, so people look at her instead of you.

Picking the right bridesmaid can be a challenging task. Make sure that you look out for these telltale signs and choose somebody who is reliable, a good team player, and organized.

You want everything to go smoothly on your wedding, and a good bridesmaid can help you with this. Pick the wrong friend, and disaster is practically guaranteed.

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3 Ways To Keep Your Wedding From Emptying Your Bank Account

Money-Saving Tips - 3 Ways To Keep Your Wedding From Emptying Your Bank Account

When it comes to the big purchases that you expect to make in your lifetime, there are few that spring to mind faster than your wedding day. With many weddings costing in the tens of thousands, many couples worry about how it’s going to affect their finances from the moment they start planning.

Which begs the question: does it have to be that way? Does a wedding have to be something that completely drains your bank account?

Of course not! The truth is that weddings have so many details and “moving parts” (ex. special decor, food, entertainment, photographers, etc.) a great deal of money is often spent. However, if you have a lower budget in mind, there are plenty of ways to help keep costs down for your big day. Here are 3 money-saving tips to help from emptying your bank account.

1. Keep things simple

One of the major things that causes weddings to be so expensive is when couples (and their parents) insist on inviting everyone – the co-workers, the second (and third) cousins they haven’t seen in years, the neighbor whose wedding they attended 5 years ago . . .

By keeping things simple and small with your wedding, you can save huge amounts of money. You don’t need to invite everyone you’ve ever known (the bigger the guest list, the bigger the price tag). Instead, just include the people that you really care about.

Another thing that can quickly cause a wedding budget to get out of hand is when couples go overboard on the endless details that they really don’t need.

Things like complex flower arrangements with imported flowers, an unusual venue, pricy favors, elaborate paper goods (such as menu cards and individual escort cards for each guest), and all kinds of decorations might be nice, but they don’t necessarily add to the specialness of your wedding when you get right down to it.

2. Try something different

Of course, if you want to get married without having to spend huge amounts of money then you could try something a bit different. Eloping is never going to be the most common or popular style of wedding but going away and having a quiet ceremony without too much fuss can be incredibly exciting as well as being easier on the wallet.

Think what you want about the stereotype around Vegas weddings, but places like the Little Church of the West offer lovely, intimate ceremonies that aren’t going to cost an arm and a leg. It’s certainly not going to be for everyone, but if you want a wedding that won’t be too expensive, then it’s at least worth considering.

3. Go the homemade route

Of course, if you really want lots of detailed decorations, food, and place settings, there is one thing that you can do instead of spending money on buying them or hiring someone to do them: make them yourself.

Taking a homemade route with your wedding can save you huge amounts of money. Just be careful that you aren’t planning on too many DIY wedding projects, which can end up making life more stressful and gives you a lot more work to do. Get your friends and family involved to help so that you’re not dealing with all of the work by yourself (you can “pay” them with a pizza lunch or dinner).

A lot of couples don’t like the idea of having to make compromises on their wedding plans because they feel like they won’t have a “real wedding” unless it has all of the bells and whistles. It’s important to remember that the most important part of any wedding is getting to promise yourself to the person you love most in this world. That’s what makes it a “real wedding.” As long as you have that, just about everything else is optional.

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“I Take Thee… Erm…”: What Are You Forgetting About In Your Wedding Planning?

“I Take Thee... Erm...": What Are You Forgetting About In Your Wedding Planning?
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Right from the moment he (or she) popped the question, there is a never-ending cavalcade of things to do, details to plan, and a constant feeling of “have I forgotten something?”

With an almost never-ending amount of things to have to remember while planning your perfect day, it can seem like this feeling never goes away. While you can draw up lists and plans and make sure that everything you have prepared is thoroughly in your control, there may be things that escape your thoughts, especially if you are blindsided by bigger issues at the time.

Here are some things that you may want to think about that can have a major impact leading up to your big day itself, and afterwards.

Include The Helpers

In other words, your vendors, from the people in the band, your photographer and videographer, as well as your wedding planner. These people need to be taken into account during the big day, and while you may have thought purely in terms of feeding your guests, these people who have worked so tirelessly to make your day so special need feeding too! A lot of caterers will consider your vendor meals at a price concession (couldn’t hurt to ask), so while it is a little bit extra on your budget, you want them to be working at full capacity, so make sure they are fed!

A Guestbook

You may want to make a trip to a local bookstore for a type of book that is characteristic of where you’re getting married. But there are also plenty of great guest book suppliers. Pure Invitation provides various designs, depending on your individual style. Also, you don’t want to forget the pens! Having a guest book for your guests to give you their well wishes when they arrive at the reception adds a lovely little touch and gives you a fantastic memento of your perfect day.

The Seating

If you are not doing assigned seating, you’ll need to think about the fact that people don’t sit next to each other naturally. So make sure that you get an extra few chairs than the amount on your guest list. In addition to this, it’s beneficial to get an extra set of chairs for the ceremony as well as the reception.

If you are getting married in the same venue as you are having the reception, it may be practical to reuse the same set of chairs for the ceremony and the reception.

You’ll also need to think about providing canapés (also called hors d’oeuvres or appetizers) for your guests, as well as the room layout/flow so there isn’t going to be caterers and helpers coming through destroying the ambience.

Your Marriage License

It depends on where you are in the world, but you will need to take your marriage license with you to the venue. Be sure to check for deadlines in applying for this license, and if there are any special documents needed so that your application is completed.

Also, make sure you have somewhere safe to keep your documents. Make sure they are in a secure folder, in a place that is out of the way of any pets or children, because without this piece of paper, you will not be able to get married! There are plenty of folders you can purchase that are nice and secure, but there are ones you can purchase from places like Abbey Stationery that do the job just fine. This folder is also a great place for you to put all your other relevant documentation, such as your ID and your passport, so when you are ready to jet off on honeymoon, it is all in one secure place.

If you’ll need to renew your driver’s license or passport before heading off, try and do this at least 8 weeks before the wedding.

Get Someone To Corral People

It is always helpful to have someone who is able to wrangle people together for photos. Remember, the photographer doesn’t know who the important members of the family are, (and neither does your wedding planner), so it may be worth assigning a member of the family this duty so they can get the desired people quickly. That way, you are able to get through all of the photos you need, without the photographer running over time, and therefore you running over budget.

Check For Food Allergies

While you may love barbecue chicken sticky ribs, your gluten-free vegan guest may not take so kindly to it! So, it’s important to make a note early on in the proceedings of who has food allergies, intolerances, or are vegetarian or vegan. A handy little tip, if you can get a list to your caterer that states where these people are sitting, it is going to be a godsend for them, and makes your day that much smoother.

Thank You Notes

You are obviously grateful that people have come to spend your big day with you, but it’s a thoughtful little touch to send everybody a thank you note, especially for those that bought you gifts. Make sure these notes don’t go out any later than two months after your wedding day.

It can be overwhelming to write personalized and heartfelt thank you notes, especially if you have more than 200 guests in attendance, but be sure to allocate a little bit of time each day to writing these notes, maybe 30 minutes. And, not just your guests, be sure to thank your bridal party, your family, and your parents.

We can get so overwhelmed by the whole process that we will inevitably forget about something, but the important thing in this respect is to plan and to allow sufficient time to think about what you really want for your big day. Little details mean a lot in your wedding, and you want your guests to feel like they have been looked after, so take a few of these ideas into account, and use them in your planning to make their day, as well as yours, extra special.

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