To Trend or Not To Trend

twinkle lights over dance floorWedding trends come and go, and although I try to keep up on what’s the latest in the wedding world, I’ve never been a fan of trends as a whole. Sure, there are many things I love that happen to be “trends,” but I love them for what they are, NOT because they are wedding trends.

As a wedding planner in Dayton, Ohio, I’ve seen many different ideas and details and (dare I say it) trends incorporated into my bride and groom’s reception decor. The exciting part is after everything is all set up, the party is in full swing, the bride and groom are having the time of their lives, and you can tell that the guests are thinking “Oh, that’s so [bride and groom’s names].”

Fun Wedding Trends

Recently, there’s been some controversial back-and-forth in a few wedding blogs on the topic of wedding trends. On the surface it seems these particular blog writers are simply anti-wedding blog or anti-mason jars and twinkly lights (a couple items that happen to be “IN” in wedding decor).

However, read between the lines and you’ll get to the root of what they are saying. The “problem” isn’t so much WHAT (it’s not weddings blogs per se, or mason jars/lights in and of themselves), but WHY (why did the bride and groom choose these particular details).

Yeah, details ARE important – there’s no doubt about that. It’s the use of details that easily personalizes your wedding and brings to life your own wedding style and vision.

But when you choose details solely because they look so pretty, or cool, or whatever in that magazine article or blog post, then you run the risk of ending up with nothing more than a meaningless prop instead of something that makes a statement about you and your fiancé. Wouldn’t you prefer your guests to see the details and think “Oh, that’s so them!” instead of “huh?”

So, it seems to me that the solution to this “problem” is twofold:

1. The bride and groom, and their love for each other, is more important than the details (don’t lose sight of the reason for the day – the celebration of your love)

2. Choose details because they fit in with your personal and wedding styles (and not because they fit a preconceived notion of how a wedding “should” look or what you “should” have to be “right”)

Try to make details meaningful to you – not because they’re trendy but because it’s something you love. To thine own self be true. Be YOU. Do YOU. And if YOU happens to be mason jars and twinkly lights (or whatever the current trend may be) then embrace it. On the other hand, if it’s not, then don’t feel like you have to choose these things.

And yes, even here in Dayton, Ohio I’ve seen mason jars and twinkle lights and other wedding details that are also considered “trendy,” (you can see some of them here on my wedding gallery). And no, I did not cringe, as each were gorgeous, wonderful representations of the bride and groom.

By the way, in case you’re interested, check out the blog posts in question, Open Letter to Wedding Bloggers on Hindsight Bride , A Wedding Manifesto of Sorts on Jonas Peterson, and Are Mason Jars Really Ruining the Wedding Industry? on Offbeat Bride.

Hearts, Joy, Love!
Jean

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Photo credit: Sandra Reed

Quick Tip for Your Groom’s Boutonniere

Here’s a quick, easy (and inexpensive) tip to ensure that your groom’s boutonniere will look fabulous all day.

Groom's Boutonniere

Your groom will be getting a lot of hugs on your wedding day and his boutonniere will take a beating.

He doesn’t have to spend half the day walking around with a smashed and broken boutonniere. So he stays looking his best, have your florist create an extra one for him.

Hearts, Joy, Love!
Jean

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Real Wedding by Weddings From The Heart – Erica and Alex’s Autumn Wedding

bride and groom after ceremony

Saturday, October 29, 2011 was a beautiful, crisp autumn day – just perfect for a Fall wedding!

Kumler Chapel - Miami University

Erica and Alex were married on the campus of Miami University at Kumler Chapel.

Dinner and dancing followed at the Marcum Conference Center.

The decor was a lovely blend of elegance and whimsy. The outdoors was brought inside with leaves, branches and pumpkins.

Guests were treated to the delicious “New Orleans Buffet” with Chicken and Andouille Sausage Gumbo, Beef Tenderloin with Sauce Robert, Chicken Etouffe, and Red Beans and Rice.

bride and groom's first dance

bride and bridesmaids bouquets

fall wedding cake covered in roses

kings table at wedding reception with fall decor

pumpkin & leaf decor for fall wedding

caramel apple favors for fall wedding

A big “Thank You” to the amazing team who helped create such a perfect wedding day for Erica and Alex.

Ceremony & Reception Sites – Kumler Chapel and Marcum Conference Center
Florist – Cady with The Flowerman
Photographer – Photography by Faye Sommer
Wedding Cake – Central Pastry Bakery
Groom’s Cake – Patricia’s Wedding Cakes
DJ – Duffy with Party Pleasers
Caramel Apples – Rocky Mountain Chocolate Factory
Ceremony Musician – Ted Singer with Singer Studios
Limousine – A Savannah Night
Bride’s Make-up – Nicole Shirley with Nikki Cosmetics

Hearts, Joy, Love!
Jean

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Photo credits: Photography by Faye Sommer