Deciding to get married can be very exciting, but if you’re not careful, it can get a little too political and stressful. You can find yourself worrying about making wedding mistakes, or other silly things that you never thought you’d worry about – who really, truly cares about chair covers?
Now is not the time to stress out about things that don’t really matter to you. Keeping in mind why you decided to marry your partner in the first place should help. Here are 7 wedding mistakes you’re going to want to avoid when planning your wedding.
1) Inviting People Out Of Obligation
When you first decide to get married, you’ll find that who to invite plagues your mind fairly regularly. This is a common wedding mistake, as you want all of your nearest and dearest there, but it can also be too tempting to invite people out of obligation.
For instance, if you’re close to your work colleagues, you may also be tempted to invite those you’re not that close to so that no one feels left out. You may be tempted to invite a distant family member who you haven’t spoken to in years. Do you really need these people at your wedding, taking up space, drinking your wine, and eating your fancy food? No. If you know deep down you don’t want these people to share your day with you, don’t invite them.
2) Not Having ‘The Talk’ About Speeches And Toasts
Speeches and toasts are still common traditions, however, many people who give them try to be so humorous that they end up going a little bit too far.
Making jokes is fine, telling stories is fine, but you really need to let your wedding party know what lines not to cross so they don’t make anybody feel awkward. If you’re unsure, you can look at ready made best man speeches to give them an idea of what to say in yours. As a rule, it shouldn’t be longer than 5 minutes, and they should avoid touchy subjects like religion and exes.
3) Dragging Out The Speeches
When speeches drag on too long, or when there are too many speeches made, your guests will become unengaged and switch off. You don’t want to leave them waiting too long for their next drink or a slice of cake. Do you want them to start napping on your carefully decorated tables? Probably not. Make sure the speeches are to the point.
4) Spending Too Much On The Wrong Things
Some wedding mistakes can directly affect your budget. Weddings are expensive enough without you feeling tempted to spend loads of money on the wrong kinds of things. Favors, for instance. Most guests don’t expect a favor, and some couples choose a favor that their guests really don’t want or won’t use. Either choose a favor people will like and use, or don’t have them at all. It’s totally fine to drop the traditions that don’t work or feel right for you.
5) Going Cheap On Photography/Videography
One thing that is going to last forever on your big day is the images taken. Photography and videography should not be something you cut corners on. You might think that your uncle Phil is an expert with his Kodak, but you might wish you’d hired a pro when you look back at your album. Make sure you look at different portfolios and find a photo style that suits you as a couple, as there are so many of them to choose from.
6) Not Researching The DJ
All DJs are not created equal either. Do you want somebody who’s going to play a variety of music and get your guests feeling good, dancing the night away, or do you want to chance them playing music that will cause your guests to retreat to their seats covering their ears?
Make sure you read reviews and meet up with potential DJs to get an idea of what they could do for you. It’s always a good idea to have a list of the sort of songs you want to play, and any songs or genres you want to avoid entirely.
7) Going Over Your Budget
This is one day in your life, and while you want it to be special, going over your budget can mean problems. Money spent on a wedding could also be put towards a mortgage, or a new car. Be sensible!
* This is a contributed post
I hope you found this information on wedding mistakes useful!
Hearts, Joy, Love!
Jean
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