Now that you’re engaged and planning your wedding, people will be more than happy to share their 2 cents about what you should or should not be doing. Usually their wedding planning tips and “words of wisdom” come from a good place – they want the best for you.
But sometimes their lofty ideas are less than stellar. Simply put, all advice is not good advice.
Here are the top 7 examples of bad wedding planning tips and advice
1. You Can’t Wear White (or You Have To Wear White)
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Welcome to the 21st century. Wearing “Virginal White” is an antiquated idea. Your color choice for your wedding attire has no bearing and does not represent your “purity.” And it’s not the reason women began wearing a white gown on her wedding day. Queen Victoria (the first bride to wear a special white dress on her wedding day) did so because she had some lace that she wanted to be incorporated into her dress.
Instead wear whatever color makes you feel and look fabulous!
2. Don’t Tell Vendors It’s A Wedding
Telling potential vendors that you’re planning a party, because if you tell them it’s a wedding, they’ll charge you more is absolutely not true. Vendors don’t charge more for the exact same product/service just because the word “wedding” is used.
Do products and services cost more for a wedding than for a birthday or dinner party? Yes, they usually do. But these items are often more elaborate for a wedding than another type of event, therefore they will cost more.
Not to mention that saying it’s a different type of event is misleading. You can’t build a good rapport and relationship with your wedding vendors by starting off with a lie.
3. Don’t Tell Your Vendors Your Real Budget
Again, this is misleading. Not exactly the same “lie” as not saying it’s a wedding, but not the whole truth either. Not to mention, telling your vendors a lower amount than what you really have budgeted will greatly alter what they quote and suggest to you.
Instead of stating a lower dollar amount than what you really have budgeted, tell them two dollar – figures, 1) the amount you would like to spend, and 2) the absolute most you can pay.
By knowing how much you have to spend vendors are able to make appropriate suggestions that fit your wedding style and vision, and stay within your budget.
4. Invite More People Than Your Venue Can Hold, Because Enough People Will RSVP “No”
No matter where your wedding venue is, there is a maximum capacity that the room can legally hold. And although typically 15-20% of the invited guests will RSVP no, receiving 5% or less “No” RSVPs is not unheard of.
Which leaves you with a venue that can’t accommodate all of your guests. Or, if your venue does somehow find a way to squeeze everyone in, it will be tight and uncomfortable for your guests.
5. Order A Cake That Has Fewer Servings Than The Number Of Guests You’ll Have
Will all of your guests eat cake? Probably not. But to not have enough to offer everyone is a big faux-pas.
Be a good host, and provide enough for everyone. If you end up with more cake than needed, it’s a safe bet that some guests will want seconds. Plus, you can take the extra cake with you. Have a few slices plated up for you and your new spouse to take with you for your wedding night.
Having a brunch the morning after your wedding? You can serve the extra cake then too.
An exception to this is if you are planning on offering other types of desserts, then having fewer servings of wedding cake than guests is ok.
6. Tell Your Caterer A Lower Head Count Than Your Actual “Yes” RSVPs
Again, you need to have enough for everyone. So if you give your caterer a lower head count than actual number of heads that will be in attendance, not only do you run the risk of running out of food and beverages, but you won’t have enough seating for everyone.
The only thing that will come out of doing this is that you will look like a bad host. You want your wedding guests to talk about your wedding for the right reasons.
7. It’s All About You
Yes, your wedding day is about you and your fiancé, and your reception is the celebration of your love. And yes, make choices based on what the two of you like, and what holds meaning and is representative of you both. But this is not done in a vacuum. There are other people involved.
Make choices that are representative of the two of you, but will also be enjoyed and appreciated by all of the other people who will be celebrating with you.
Do Get A Wedding Planner
Planning a wedding is hard work. These worst tips ever will help you avoid some of the pitfalls when it comes to planning your wedding. But if you’re still overwhelmed by the prospect of organizing your big day, a wedding planner is an excellent idea.
A wedding planner can help ensure your wedding runs smoothly and goes off without a hitch. They know how to plan a wedding, coordinate with vendors, and ensure everything goes according to plan. With a wedding planner on your side, you can relax and enjoy the planning process.
The right wedding planner can help you create the perfect event, from the ceremony to the reception. They will also make sure that all of your vendors are on time and that everything goes as planned. A wedding planner can also help you save money by helping you find affordable vendors. And they can help you stay organized by keeping track of essential details and ensuring everything goes according to plan.
With all of these benefits, it makes sense why so many couples turn to a wedding planner for their big day.
Have you heard any (or received) any bad wedding planning tips or advice? Tell me about it in the comments below!
Hearts, Joy, Love!
Jean
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