If you are in the midst of planning your wedding, you’ll come across a lot of wedding information – when researching online and when talking to friends and family. Some of this advice may be pretty good ideas. But then again, some of these so called “good ideas” really fall into the category of “wedding myths,” things that everyone has heard at one time or another, but in reality, just isn’t quite so.
So how do you know how to sort through what’s important and what’s not?
Weddings are not black and white. Ok, you can have a color scheme that’s black and white, but when it comes to ideas and information, there’s really a lot of gray area in there. Why? Because weddings are no longer the “this is how it’s done” events that they once were, therefore many wedding beliefs (aka wedding myths) aren’t followed like they once were.
Many common wedding beliefs aren’t quite so in real life. We’ve all heard them. Here are the top 4 wedding myths that everyone hears.
4 Top Wedding Myths Debunked
1. “It’s your day!”
Yes, your wedding day IS your day. But it’s also your partner’s day. And you want your guests to enjoy themselves too, don’t you? So, in a way, it kind of needs to be about them. But mostly it is about you AND your partner.
When you’re making your wedding plans, be sure to keep everyone in mind.
2. “It’s the best day of your life!”
Yes, your wedding day should be one that is wonderful, and fabulous, and everything else good. But to label it the “best day of your life” is really putting a lot of pressure on yourself and those around you. Real life is rarely (if ever) ideal, and perfection just doesn’t exist.
Be realistic about what the term “best day” means to you. Is it one where the music and decorations and everything else is absolutely perfect and magical? (If so, please rethink this, because real life is not perfect!) Or is it one where you are getting married to the love of your life, and get to celebrate with all the special people in your lives?
3. “It’s what’s on trend!”
I’ve said it before, I have a love-hate relationship with wedding trends.
It’s fun to see what trends are current, and try to predict what will be trending in the coming year. But trends don’t necessarily equate to what holds meaning or is representative to you and your partner.
Balloon walls, dark and moody color palettes, and smoke bomb exits are just a few examples of what’s trending for 2019 weddings. Google “current wedding trends” and you will find a plethora of fabulous ideas.
But which (if any) should you choose for your own wedding?
Ask yourself, “Would my partner and I have considered doing any of those things if they weren’t considered ‘trends?’”
If the answer is “yes,” then you may want to find a way to include it on your wedding day. And if the answer is “no,” skip it. Trends are meaningless if they don’t hold any importance to you and your partner.
4. “It’s tradition!”
Tradition is important, but like most things, the reasons behind all those traditions have changed, and may not hold any meaning to you and your partner that they may once have 30, 40 or more years ago.
Take the different wedding traditions into consideration and figure out how they can fit into your wedding day. You then have the option to either do a tradition as is, or change it up, or even omit it.
Don’t do something just because “it’s tradition,” especially if it’s a practice that you honestly don’t want to do.
Hearts, Joy, Love!
Jean
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