A wedding planner can help with a boatload of issues and projects so you can create and pull off the wedding you’ve envisioned. There is much that we can do, and a few things that a wedding planner cannot do.
- We can help you screen and hire local vendors that are the right fit for you and your wedding style.
- We can help you locate and source accessories and decorative items to express that style.
- We can see that everything goes as planned, from your walk down the aisle to your big getaway at the end of your reception so you can relax and enjoy your wedding day.
- We can help you save money and stretch your wedding budget. (Who wouldn’t like that?)
But we aren’t you and we aren’t mind readers, so there there are some things that your wedding planner cannot do for you.
Here are 6 areas that your wedding planner cannot do for you which really should be taken care of by you and your partner:
Your Wedding Planner Cannot Do . . .
1. Your Seating Chart
We can’t determine who sits where. We can suggest and assist with your seating chart, but only you know the complex family relationships and arrangements that govern who sits where and why. She can offer ideas, facilitate compromises, but in the end it is your decision.
2. Your Budget
We can’t create or change your budget. Only you know your personal financial situation and how much you want to and can afford to spend on your wedding. Be honest with your planner and let him/her help you have the fabulous wedding within those budget guidelines.
3. Select Your Wedding Party
We can’t select the members of your wedding party. Only you know who matters enough in your life to be selected to be a member of your wedding party. No one else can make that decision for you. We can offer opinions, but in the end it’s your call.
4. Pick Your Music
We can’t select your ceremony or reception music. Only you and your groom can make the final call. We can offer a wide variety of options that fit within your wedding vision, and can suggest DJs, bands, string quartets, and vocalists that will fit your budget. However, the final choice is yours.
5. Your Vows
We can’t write your wedding vows. Yes, we can offer suggestions, help you think through options, and suggest resources, but your wedding vows are a highly personal statement of your and your partner’s feelings, and what you mean to each other.
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6. Your Thank You Notes
YOU MUST WRITE YOUR OWN THANK YOU NOTES! This task belongs to you and your new husband/wife, no one else. No exceptions!
Your wedding planner cannot do these things, and honestly, you shouldn’t want them to. He/she wants to help you as much as possible, but it is YOUR wedding, not his/hers.
Although your wedding planner cannot do these things, he/she CAN provide help for you along the way, and offer suggestions of what to look for, (and what to steer clear of). In the end, you must make the actual decisions. Then, after those decisions have been made, communicate them to your planner, so he/she can handle the rest.
Do you need some help with your wedding plans? Let me know. You can leave a comment below, or contact me by phone/text at 937-581-3647 or email me at jean@weddingsfromtheheart.net.
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Hearts, Joy, Love!
Jean
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