How to Address Your Wedding Invitations to Guests with Titles

wedding invitation envelopeAddressing your invitations doesn’t seem like a difficult or confusing task.

If the people you are addressing the envelope to have the usual titles (Mr., Mrs., Miss, or Ms.) it is usually pretty simple (although a bit time consuming).

But what to do when one, or both, have “official” titles (ex. Lieutenant or Doctor) instead of the usual Mr. or Mrs.?

Here are 3 scenarios to help you crack the code:

1) For a couple with different last names, the woman is traditionally listed first (ex. Miss (or Ms.) Sarah Smith and Mr. Matthew Jones).

However, when one has a rank or other “official” title, their name will be listed first (Captain Matthew Jones and Ms. Sarah Smith, Doctor Sarah Smith and Mr. Matthew Jones).

2) For a couple with the same last name the person with a title other than Mr., Mrs., Miss, or Ms. would be listed first. (Lieutenant and Mr. Susan and Marvin Brown, Doctor and Mrs. Michael Johnson and Lisa Davis).

3) For a couple who both have “official” titles there are a few “sub-rules”

  • are their last names the same or different?
  • are their titles both military, both civilian, or one is military and the other civilian?
  • are they being invited as a couple (meaning are you close to both) or is one the “and guest”

For a couple whose last names are different, and their titles are both military and civilian, the military title takes precedence over a civilian title, (Captain Linda Wilson and Doctor James Moore, Captain Charles Lewis and Doctor Sandra Allen).

If their last name is the same, the man is listed first (Doctor Daniel and Captain Nancy Clark).

Unless she is your invited guest and he is her “plus one,” then she is listed first (Doctor Karen Jones and Captain Paul Young).

Hope this helps in your wedding invitation addressing endeavors.

Hearts, Joy, Love!
Jean

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Bride & Groom Q&A – RSVPs

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Q – Some people just don’t RSVP to our wedding invitation. Is there a magic formula for the best guess of these non-RSVP people that will actually show up?

A – Getting RSVPs back is a BIG problem. Even when providing a pre-addressed and pre-stamped card, where all they have to do is check either “yes” or “no” and drop it in a mailbox, people just aren’t in the habit of giving a proper response.

Are You Coming? – What to Do When Your Guests Don’t RSVP

So, how to figure out the actual number of who is coming? First of all, never guess – you don’t want to give your caterer a head count that ends up too low (and you end up with not enough food and drinks and seating – making you look bad, when it’s not your fault that they didn’t let you know that they were coming) or too high (and ending up with more food and centerpieces and linens than you really need – and having to pay for those extras to boot).

I always recommend that the day after “Please Reply Date” have someone call those who haven’t responded. I’ve even made these calls for brides. It’s a simple “we’re looking forward to celebrating with you. Will you be able to make it?” Get a definite yes or no – no maybes.

Bride & Groom Q & A – When Guests RSVP More People Than Invited

Don’t feel bad about calling people who haven’t responded. So much depends on how many people will be there – food, drink, tables, chairs, centerpieces. . . you need an accurate number.

Hearts, Joy, Love!
Jean

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