Why I Have a Love-Hate Relationship with Wedding “Trends”

small wreath on wooden rustic table
Ugh. My Love-Hate relationship with wedding trends continues.

However, this time it’s not because of any specific practice or trend that is currently showing popularity among engaged couples . . .

. . . but with the seemingly loose usage of the word “Trend.”

Over 60 million couples got married in the U.S. last year alone. With that many people, it only make sense that many will be making similar choices.

However, just because a lot of couples followed a similar practice for their wedding, it’s not always enough to call it a trend.

Sometimes it’s merely choices.

Peonies, garden roses, ranunculus, and dahlias are popular flower selections; Greenery is Pantone’s 2017 color of the year; Mark Ronson/Bruno Mars’ “Uptown Funk” is the top requested song – these choices are trends as there are many options (literally hundreds) that couples could have chosen.

However, other choices are merely the same “are you or aren’t you” choices that have been made for decades. Choices, not trends.

Fun Wedding Trends

Most recently, two non-trend choices have somehow been deemed as the latest trends. They are:

1. Not inviting children to the wedding

AND

2. Not doing a seating chart for the reception

People – THESE ARE NOT TRENDS.

These practices are not something new. They are not suddenly the “in” thing.

For years, many couples have chosen to not invite children to their wedding.

For years, many couples have chosen not to do a seating chart, opting for open seating instead.

But guess what? Just as many DID invite children, and just as many HAD assigned seating at their reception.

Which makes them choices, not trends. Choices that brides and grooms have been making for years. And they’re just a couple of the gazillion other choices that every couple makes when planning their wedding.

Ok, Thanks for letting me rant. I’ll climb down from my soapbox now.

Hearts, Joy, Love!
Jean

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Trends – What’s Out (And What This Means For You and Your Wedding)

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Every year we hear about the newest trends and what is up-and-coming for the following wedding season.

But after a while trends lose their luster as their popularity diminishes.

Some trends that seem to be losing steam are:

Chalkboards
Chalkboards were a fun and easy way to provide signage at your reception. They have been used in a variety of ways including menus, table numbers, and in lieu of ceremony programs. Recently though, couples are staring to go back to simple cardstock when using signage at their reception.

“Traditional” Cocktail and Dinner Music
Light jazz and soft instrumentals used to be de rigeur for the cocktail hour and during dinner.

These days, couples are choosing a more eclectic playlist to set a fun mood for their guests, such as “Suit and Tie” by Justin Timberlake, “Fever” by Peggy Lee or “California Dreamin’” by the Mamas and the Papas.

Why I Have a Love-Hate Relationship with Wedding “Trends”

Photo Booths
Big photo booths with goofy props like feather boas and crazy hats are still fun, but we’re seeing more open-air photo “booths” with props with a more upscale feel (such as bowler hats, mustaches, hearts, and champagne flutes).

Candy Buffets
Anything edible is always a bit hit, and candy buffets were a fun way to incorporate the wedding color palette and send guests off with a tasty treat. But, for whatever reason, candy buffets just aren’t used at wedding receptions very often anymore.

So, what does this mean for your wedding?

In reality, not much.

Your wedding vision is determined by you and your fiancé, what you both like (and dislike), and what holds meaning and is representative to you.

So, unless your style is to follow the current trends, what’s in and what’s out should never be a determining factor for what you choose to have for your wedding.

A side note though: sometimes it can be easier to find something that follows the current trends. For example, before the chalkboard craze was embraced, finding suitable chalkboards was tricky. You were pretty much stuck with large boards or none at all.

These days not only can you find them in a variety of shapes and sizes, but there is chalkboard paint so you can turn just about anything into a chalkboard.

Hearts, Joy, Love!
Jean

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Four Wedding Trends That Should Never Go Away

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Lately I’ve been seeing a lot of wedding articles that say something like “ Wedding Trends We Want To Go Away ” or “ Wedding Trends We Wish They Would Retire. ”

Let’s turn that around to something positive! There are certainly many fabulous wedding trends and practices that we’d love to see for a loooong time.

These are my 4 top favorites!

  1. Non-Identical Bridesmaid Gowns
    Your ladies have different personalities, and probably aren’t the same size or body type. Making them dress in identical dresses isn’t as common as it used to be.

    Choose a color (or color family) and give your ladies a few “guidelines” to follow, such as not full-length, or no strapless. Or choose a few different styles that coordinate and let your ladies choose which style each would like to wear.

  2. The “First Look”
    Most couples still follow the tradition of the groom not being allowed to see his bride before she walks down the aisle. However, a “First Look” is so special, and gives you both a moment together before the celebration of the day begins.
  3. Unplugged Weddings
    Your friends and family are excited to share your day and want photos to remember the day – I get that. But, if they’re watching through a viewfinder is distracting. They aren’t fully “in the moment.” Being “unplugged” allows your guests to truly “feel” the day, instead of collecting pictures to look at later.
  4. Expressing the 2017 Color Trends in Your Spring Wedding Style

  5. No Wedding Cake
    Ok, I love cake, but I have seen my share of couples who don’t, or just want to serve something different to their guests. Pies, ice cream, candy buffets, donuts . . . The possibilities are endless, so choose your favorite!

    (P.S. – This doesn’t mean I want to do away with wedding cakes. Instead, I want to encourage couples to do what feels right for them!)

candy buffet

Hearts, Joy, Love!
Jean

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4 Wedding Trends That Leave Many (Maybe Even You) Wondering “Why?”

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Wedding trends are often fun, unique ideas that many find to be interesting and inspirational. Then again, there are some that often leave many just scratching their heads.

Let’s take a look at a few of these wedding trends:

1. Trashing the dress
Trashing the dress, according to Wikipedia, is “is a style of wedding photography that contrasts elegant clothing with an environment in which it is out of place.” But it goes beyond just a contrast between the locale and the elegant gown, but encourages the destruction of the garment by having a paint fight, rolling around in mud, diving into the ocean, even setting the gown on fire.

The result is often some amazing photos, but can cause some serious safety issues. A bride in Canada drowned during her trash the dress session.

So, how far is too far?

Expressing the 2017 Color Trends in Your Spring Wedding Style

2. Bridesmaids wearing white dresses
Wedding traditions aren’t followed as they once were. Some couples don’t do the traditional bouquet or garter toss, others forgo the traditional wedding cake. But one tradition that has held on is that no one, except for the bride, of course, is allowed to wear white.

But, thanks to Pippa Middleton, that tradition is is being pushed aside. After she wore that Sarah Burton for Alexander McQueen white dress, we’re seeing more bridesmaids in white (or light neutrals like ecru or eggshell).

pippa middleton bridesmaid in white

3. Dressed up wedding pets
Having your pet attend the wedding is one thing, but some couples are even giving them entire outfits too! You have to admit this pup is pretty cute, but are you over the dressed up dog?

dog in tuxedo

So, are dogs dressed in entire outfits of suits and gowns cute, or just silly?

4. Excessively Photoshopped wedding photos
Photoshop, or similar software, can be a photographers dream. They can adjust the brightness, turn a color photo into black and white, and easily make other enhancements to their photos.

But is too much a bad thing?

photoshopped wedding photo

The original photo by Quinn Miller of the entire bridal party being chased down by a T-Rex was pretty funny.

But we’re now seeing other versions with bridal parties being chased by such threats as more T-Rexes, AT-ATs (the armored walkers seen in Return of the Jedi for those of you who don’t speak Star Wars), chased by Decepticons (from the Transformers movies), and (my favorite) the Stay Puft Marshmallow Man from Ghostbusters.

So, funny and creative? Or just too much?

What do you think of these wedding trends? Are you planning on doing something? What others have you seen? Let me know. I’d love to hear about them.

Hearts, Joy, Love!
Jean

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Photo credits:
Trash the dress – Faith K Lefever via photopin cc
Pippa Middleton – Scorpions and Centaurs via photopin cc
Bulldog in tuxedo – bettyx1138 via photopin cc
T. Rex – Quinn Miller

To Trend or Not To Trend

wedding trends - twinkle lights over dance floor

Wedding trends come and go, and although I try to keep up on what’s the latest in the wedding world, I’ve never been a fan of trends as a whole. Sure, there are many things I love that happen to be “trends,” but I love them for what they are, NOT because they are wedding trends.

As a wedding planner in Dayton, Ohio, I’ve seen many different ideas and details and (dare I say it) trends incorporated into my bride and groom’s reception decor. The exciting part is after everything is all set up, the party is in full swing, the bride and groom are having the time of their lives, and you can can tell that the guests are thinking “Oh, that’s so [bride and groom’s names].”

Fun Wedding Trends

Recently, there’s been some controversial back-and-forth in a few wedding blogs on the topic of wedding trends. On the surface it seems these particular blog writers are simply anti-wedding blog or anti-mason jars and twinkly lights (a couple items that happen to be “IN” in wedding decor).

However, read between the lines and you’ll get to the root of what they are saying. The “problem” isn’t so much WHAT (it’s not weddings blogs per se, or mason jars/lights in and of themselves), but WHY (why did the bride and groom choose these particular details).

Yeah, details ARE important – there’s no doubt about that. It’s the use of details that easily personalizes your wedding and brings to life your own wedding style and vision.

But when you choose details solely because they look so pretty, or cool, or whatever in that magazine article or blog post, then you run the risk of ending up with nothing more than a meaningless prop instead of something that makes a statement about you and your fiancé. Wouldn’t you prefer your guests to see the details and think “Oh, that’s so them!” instead of “huh?”

So, it seems to me that the solution to this “problem” is twofold:

1. The bride and groom, and their love for each other, is more important than the details (don’t lose sight of the reason for the day – the celebration of your love)

2. Choose details because they fit in with your personal and wedding styles (and not because they fit a preconceived notion of how a wedding “should” look or what you “should” have to be “right”)

Try to make details meaningful to you – not because they’re trendy but because it’s something you love. To thine own self be true. Be YOU. Do YOU. And if YOU happens to be mason jars and twinkly lights (or whatever the current trend may be) then embrace it. On the other hand, if it’s not, then don’t feel like you have to choose these things.

And yes, even here in Dayton, Ohio I’ve seen mason jars and twinkle lights and other wedding details that are also considered “trendy,” (you can see some of them here on my wedding gallery). And no, I did not cringe, as each were gorgeous, wonderful representations of the bride and groom.

By the way, in case you’re interested, check out the blog posts in question, Open Letter to Wedding Bloggers on Hindsight Bride , A Wedding Manifesto of Sorts on Jonas Peterson, and Are Mason Jars Really Ruining the Wedding Industry? on Offbeat Bride.

Hearts, Joy, Love!
Jean

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