But before you start writing out the list, do some serious thinking. Sit down with your fiancé and talk about what kind of wedding you want. Have you dreamt of a huge wedding with nearly everyone you know in attendance or do you prefer a more intimate gathering of your closest family and friends? What is your budget? Does that mean that you have a few guests for an elegant sit down dinner or a big gathering at a buffet?
Once you have a handle on the size of the wedding, you can begin to gather guests’ names.
There are a few different ways to assemble the guest list. The simplest, and more traditional way is to divide the list 50 – 50 between your family and your fiance’s family. Or you can divide the list in thirds – 1/3 to the couple and 1/3 each to your families.
Know that there is some flexibility in the numbers. As a general rule 15 – 20% of those invited will be unable to attend for a variety of reasons.
Once the potential list is assembled from all parties, you may find that some cuts will have to be made.
Sometimes it can be a bit tricky deciding who and how many potential guests have to be cut from the list. An easy way is to have everyone cut a set number from their list, or have the person with the longest list make the cuts. You can set cut people criteria based on categories, such as business associates, casual acquaintances, or friends you haven’t seen in years. You may decide not to include children. Whatever method is chosen, try to be fair and equitable.
When making your lists don’t forget to include your fiance’s immediate family, your officiant, and everyone in your wedding party as well as their spouses or dates.
Hearts, Joy, Love!
Jean
If you’re looking for fun ideas, or need help with your wedding plans contact me at jean@weddingsfromtheheart.net or at 937-235-2586.
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