Yes, times have changed.
But . . .
. . . when you receive a wedding invitation (or an invite to any event, for that matter) there are some obligations on your part. Remember, the people think enough of you to have sent you the invitation. Have a little courtesy to let them know if you will be able to attend.
What is “RSVP”?
This term is from the French. It means “Repondez, s’il vous plait,” or “please reply.”
It has been around for a long time and it is telling you that your host really wants to know if you are coming to his/her event. The expectation is that you will reply promptly.
How do I reply?
You respond in the manner indicated on the wedding invitation.
- If there is no response card included, send a handwritten response to the host at the return address on the envelope.
- If there is a response card, fill it in and return it in the envelope provided by the date indicated.
- If it states “RSVP” and gives a phone number, telephone and speak to a person – answering machines can be unreliable.
- If it says respond electronically, you may do so.
- Some invitations state “Regrets Only.” If this is the case, reply only if you cannot attend. If you don’t reply it is the same thing as saying you will attend. You’ll be expected.
- In the rare instance where no reply is requested, it is still polite to let someone know if you’ll be there. A phone call will work.
What if I change my mind?
- If you want to change a “yes” to a “no” be aware that it is only acceptable in case of illness, a death in the family or an unavoidable professional or business conflict. Call the host immediately and express regret. Know that being a “no show” is unacceptable.
- If you want to change a “no” to a “yes” it’s ok only if it will not upset the host or hostess’ arrangements. Always ask before you just show up.
What if I want to bring someone?
Look at the envelope and see whose names are written on it. This will tell you who is being invited.
If the wedding invitation includes the phrase Mr. John Smith and Guest (or Plus One, or something similar) – then yes, you may bring someone else with you if you choose.
If it’s just your name, but you want to bring someone – Don’t!
Don’t even ask! The invitation was extended only to the people whose names are on the invitation and no one else.
Don’t assume you can bring your children to the event. If they were invited the invitation would have said so.
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Hearts, Joy, Love!
Jean
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