It’s easy to find wedding advice. Whether you’re planning a wedding, or will be attending as a guest, you’ll probably have questions.
For answers, just go online or ask someone, and you’ll get a lot of advice. Plenty of the advice will be good, however, not all advice is good advice.
Here’s a recent article I saw on MarthaStewartWeddings.com – “Can Kids Wear White to a Wedding?”
MarthaStewartWeddings.com is one of my favorite wedding websites. It has lots of creative ideas and their wedding advice is spot on.
Usually.
But not this time.
There is something in this article that I wholeheartedly disagree with. (And it’s a similar piece of advice frequently seen, especially when kids are involved).
“Ask if the bride objects.” Yes, the writer says to ask the bride if she’s ok with kids wearing white to her wedding.
Ok, I can hear you all now. “What’s wrong with asking the bride?” After all, it’s her wedding, right?
[bctt tweet=”Not All Wedding Advice is Good Advice” username=”wedbyjean”]Yes, it’s her wedding. And asking her if it’s ok is certainly better than just going ahead with something that is questionable.
But . . .
1) You are putting her on the spot. She may really want to say ‘no’ but feel obligated, or embarrassed to say so.
2) She’s busy with planning the rest of her wedding (not to mention busy with her job, maybe school, taking care of her family – all the rest of the things going on in her life). So don’t bother her with this.
Another question that often gets the “Ask the bride” response is whether or not the kids are invited to the wedding. (Why is it always about the kids?)
The invitation is received with just the couples names on the envelope. “Hmmm. Are little Johnny and Susie invited too? I don’t know what to do. Well, ask the bride if it’s ok to bring them.”
No, No, and NO!
1) If their names aren’t on the envelope, they aren’t invited – plain and simple.
2) Don’t bother the bride.
a) You are putting her on the spot. She may really want to say ‘no’ but feel obligated, embarrassed, or uncomfortable to say so.
b) She’s busy with planning the rest of her wedding (not to mention busy with her job, maybe school, taking care of her family – all the rest of the things going on in her life). So don’t bother her with this.
So, when you come across some wedding advice, give it a little thought (and in this case, put yourself in the bride’s shoes) and you may find that it’s not such good advice after all.
Hearts, Joy, Love!
Jean
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