Planning a wedding can be tough. And there are a lot of different triggers for wedding planning stress.
You’ll have many elements to consider, and will get so many peoples’ opinions and different needs to take into consideration. It takes a lot of time – many couples take up to two years to plan their wedding. It’s also expensive. The average cost of a wedding in the US in 2018 was over $33000. In New York, that figure rose to over $75000. That’s a lot of money to spend on one day, and it’s easy to see why it could cause friction between a couple.
Many couples find wedding planning puts pressure on their relationship. Instead of being an exciting and happy time in their lives, as it should be, it can become quite the opposite. Many couples start to argue. They disagree on what they want from their big day. The stress means that they bicker and sometimes even seriously argue. They can’t find a middle ground.
Instead of looking forward to their wedding day, they can’t wait for it to be over or start to have doubts about going through with it at all. Some couples even start married life looking for non religious marriage retreats to repair their relationship before it’s even really gotten going.
Let’s take a look at five things that you can do when wedding planning stress starts to take its toll on your relationship.
1. Keep Talking
Most problems arise when you stop communicating with each other. Traditionally, planning the wedding was the bride-to-be’s job. The groom just had to show up. But, that’s not so much the case anymore. Men are much more interested and involved with the wedding plans. Even if yours isn’t, you should still spend time talking about your wedding.
But, try not to only talk about your wedding. Remember to talk about your day, to make time for each other, and to talk about any other feelings that you might be having.
2. Compromise
The trick to a calm and peaceful wedding planning period is to be open to compromise with your partner. Very few couples who get engaged have the exact same views of what they want from their wedding. Don’t ever think that it’s just your day, and you should get what you want. The wedding day is for and about both of you, so look at your options, and try to find ways to meet in the middle. Things that neither of you individually wanted, in the beginning, might be perfect for you both as a couple.
3. Stick to Your Budget
A common cause of wedding planning stress and arguments is the budget. Before you start to plan, agree on a budget and then stick to it! It might mean that you have to make sacrifices, but it will cut your stress, and you will be happier in the long run.
4. Take a Break
Don’t let your wedding take over your life. Have date nights, lunches out, and even try new hobbies together.
Make it a “no wedding” zone, where you’re not even allowed to mention weddings. Just having a few hours away from wedding planning can reduce your stress levels and help you to reconnect.
5. Hire a Wedding Planner
Before the wedding planning stress becomes too much, consider hiring a wedding planner to take away some of the strain. A wedding planner can also help keep you organized and on budget.
* This is a contributed post
I hope you found this information useful!
Hearts, Joy, Love!
Jean
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