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Your wedding guests have taken the time to come to your wedding to witness your wedding vows, and many have probably travelled great distances. They want to enjoy themselves, have a good time, and celebrate your first day as newlyweds .
To make sure you have happy wedding guests, make their experience more pleasant and memorable (for the right reasons!) with the following list of the top 5 things wedding guests hate.
1. A long gap between the ceremony and the reception
Try to have the reception start as close to the end of the ceremony as possible. If the ceremony and reception are at the same location this is super easy. If at different locations just figure out the end time of the ceremony and the drive time from there to the reception.
If a long gap between ceremony and reception can’t be avoided, provide something for your guests to do. A list of local sights to see, area shopping, A hospitality room at the hotel where your guests are staying is a simple, yet inexpensive touch. Light snacks (chips and soda) are all that’s needed. Maybe a friend or family member who lives nearby can invite guests over for cookies and light beverages.
2. A ceremony that doesn’t start on time
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A delay of a minute or two is fine. Making them wait 20 minutes or more is not.
3. Slow dinner service
Your guests have already sat through your ceremony, and although you may have provided some yummy appetizers and cocktails, by the time dinner is served they will be hungry. And when your tummy is on the verge of growling, nothing is worse than long buffet lines that take forever, or seeing another table get their dinners served but having to wait for what can seem like an eternity for them to get around to your table.
This can be avoided by having enough wait staff. Rule of thumb is 1 to 2 wait staff per 10 to 12 guests for a served dinner, and 1 wait staff per 25 guests for a buffet. Another easy buffet trick is to have the buffet table(s) double sided instead of having it pushed up against a wall (this gets people through the line twice as quickly).
4. Long lines for the bar or restrooms
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You can’t celebrate when you’re stuck in a line. For bartenders, figure on having 1 bartender per 50 to 75 guests. For restrooms, 1 potty per 35 to 50 guests (with a minimum of 2 – 1 for the men and 1 for the ladies).
5. Sitting in the hot sun for an outdoor ceremony
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Yes, I’m a fan of readings and music during the ceremony, and love the symbolism of the unity candle. But these things take time.
If your wedding ceremony will take place outdoors on a hot, humid day with little or no shade, use the KISS method (keep it short and sweet). Provide hand fans (they are inexpensive, and will help make the heat more tolerable).
Consider providing something to drink before the ceremony. Bottled water or urns with iced water is inexpensive, yet refreshing. Having pre-poured beverages looks nice, will quickly attract little bugs.
Weddings From The Heart can make your wedding day stress-free, enjoyable, and just the way you want. Contact me at 937-235-2586, 937-581-3647, or [email protected] and schedule your free, initial appointment!
Hearts, Joy, Love!
Jean
Spot on with this list! I’ve been to a wedding or two (or more…) where some of these have happened and have definitely not appreciated it.
Definitely. Wedding guests are taking the time and expense of attending a wedding. It doesn’t take much (or cost anything more) to be a thoughtful host. Thanks for your comment.
All such good points and as the wedding couple, these are things you don’t necessarily notice because you’re wrapped up in doing other things, or have separate services just for you.. So these are great things to talk through with your wedding planner.
Excellent point about the couple not noticing because they’re wrapped up with other things. Which makes it so easy to overlook. Thanks for commenting.
Great tips! An experienced wedding planner or day of coordinator can prevent or address most of these problems! So worth the money!
Thanks Beth. We definitely do our best to steer them away from any potential issues, as I’m sure other planners do as well.